Are You Striving to Be Good Enough for a Narcissist?
If you had a narcissistic or Hijackal parent, you were pre-conditioned to accept the poor treatment of a Hijackal. That’s difficult enough! Then, you may find yourself in a supposedly
HIJACKALS & THEIR WARPED SENSE OF FAIR, JUST & EQUAL
Hijackals & other narcissistic people have neither thought nor intention of leveling any playing field. No, it’s about the all important winning. Why? What can you do or say? Use
8 Damaging Roles Narcissistic Parents Assign to Their Children
…How They Affect Your Self-Esteem & Adult Relationships You had no choice in the role a narcissistic parent created for you and assigned to you. You were stuck with it–while
Future Faking
One phony way narcissistic people keep you hooked. All those promises! All those dreams! Was it future faking? That’s a very common way that #Hijackals keep you engaged in the
EMOTIONAL ABUSE: The High Cost of Enabling a Narcissistic Hijackal
There can be significant and damaging results to enabling a narcissist that you don’t want to stay blind to. You think you’re doing your best, giving your all, compromising, and
The Endless, Exhausting Competitiveness of Hijackals in Toxic Relationships
Recognize the large and small ways toxic people find to compete with you, even if only within their minds. Then, see it in daily life and learn to disengage, emotionally.
How Living With Or Being Raised By A Narcissist Actually Traumatizes You
If you downplay the trauma, you won’t take steps to recover. That would be a shame. Never underestimate the effect of having a narcissistic parent or partner! Resist the urge
Are Your Boundaries Secure, Or Too Porous To Keep You Safe?
Are your boundaries secure or about as porous as a flow-through tea bag? Boundaries. You know you need them to define yourself. You know you need them to draw a
Feeling Stuck With A Hijackal? Shift Your Thinking With These Tips!
Sometimes, you can feel SO stuck! The Hijackal–that relentless difficult toxic person–looms over your thinking, and keeps you in the shadow of fear. As I’ve said on Save Your Sanity,
Am I In A Toxic Relationship With A Hijackal? Beware, Hijackals Are Crafty!
Often I talk about the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of difficult, toxic people. In this episode, I talk about how you feel when you have a #Hijackal in your
Blame Shifting: Counteracting This Crazy-Making Way Narcissists Try To Win
Try these strategies and tactics to change the dynamics in your relationship with a #Hijackal when they try to avoid responsibility or accountability, even–and especially–when they feel threatened by a potential flaw of theirs being mentioned.
Housebound With A Hijackal? 10 Truths About Them You Can’t Change
Trying to change these ten things about a Hijackal is impossible. Nothing you say will change them. Save your breath. Take them to heart right now, especially when housebound! with
Hard-Headed Narcissists: One BIG Must-Know (Little-Known) Reason Why Narcissistic Hijackals Refuse To Change
Problem with narcissists is that they’re unreasonable, right? It’s their way or the highway. Many reasons for that, but you may not have heard this about their mindsets. HIGHLIGHTS OF
Don’t Believe “Emotional Facts”: Recognize How Narcissists Use Them To Gaslight and Control You
#Hijackals–all people with narcissistic, sociopathic, anti-social tendencies–love to manipulate with emotional facts. Help today to recognize and refute them. Tips for empowering responses! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE: Where the term,
Narcissist Fauxpologies: How To Stop Being Hooked Into Believing Hijackals Will Change
Clearly see how #narcissists use the fauxpology to hook you in, give you hope, and keep supply. Dr. Shaler gives you clear explanations and examples to keep you from ever
Why A Famous Filmmaker Focuses On “The Truth About Marriage” Guest: ROGER NYGARD
From focusing on Trekkies, Roswell, and The Nature of Existence, fillmmaker, Roger Nygard, has mysteriously turned his attention to “The Truth About Marriage.” Why? What is different about his perspective