Toxic Relationships & Narcissism Blog

6 Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated and How To Stop It

Hijackals–difficult, toxic people–catch you unawares. Don’t let them! SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS® with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor Don’t you just hate it when you feel manipulated? That’s what happens far too often when you have a Hijackal in your life. And, you hope for better, but nothing really seems to change.

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12 Signs You Are in a Love/Hate Relationship And Need Help

There is something wrong, something off, in your relationship. You can feel it, and you may not be quite able to put words to it, to describe it to yourself even. Yet, you know it’s not right! Good start! Go with your gut! Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing–and often dangerous–people, have “tells.” Those are the

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7 Warning Signs and Wake-Up Calls That Your Partner is MORE Than Selfish

You may be thinking it’s just selfishness, but it could be much more. Don’t miss this! You excuse. You rationalize. You justify. And, repeat. You think that if you are more understanding, loving, compassionate, or giving then the demands will stop. Not if you’re with a Hijackal®! That’s why it’s so important to know if that’s

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energy leaks

Got Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness?

GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life. Brenda is an

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7 Red Flags That The Person You’re Dating is Toxic. Run!

When you’re dating, you want to see the best in the other person, and you want them to really like you. Right? BUT, too frequently, the hope that someone will love you clouds your willingness to see the red flags that tell you that they never will. Don’t miss these dating red flags! So many

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Love, Dump, Or…? What About Radical Acceptance?

GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe? You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I’ve written

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all your fault what's happening.

Angry with a Hijackal? Why Payback Won’t Work

Hijackal behavior is outrageous, and it gets your blood boiling too often, right? They are like vampires, draining your blood. And, you just want to show ’em how it feels. And, you want them to see how much they hurt you. And, truth be told, you want them to hurt the way you are hurt. So,

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5 Ways to Recognize Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Passive-aggressive behavior is frustrating, infuriating, and frankly…unfair! And, it’s sneaky! In fact, so sneaky that you’re often caught up in thinking that it actually makes some sense…at first, or for a while. Then, it dawns on you: Something’s not right with this but I can’t quite put my finger on it. So, in this recording,

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What to Say When a Hijackal Says You’re Being Overly Sensitive

Oh, that’s crazy-making, right? You try to talk about your feelings and you get shut down? In today’s episode, I give you insights into this whole nasty process of being blamed for being overly sensitive when you’re actually speaking up for yourself when attacked. You know what I’m talking about. IT HURTS! Are you told that you’re

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