Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships

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  • Living With Emotional Abuse
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on December 7, 2021 at 5:10 AM

    Sometimes, it's hard to see emotional abuse when it's happening. Sometimes, you were young and thought it was normal. What about now? Are you living in it, or suffering from the long-term effects of it? How do you know? Listen for answers to these questions.Emotional abuse can be hard to recognize […]

Straight, compassionate  talk to help you clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people I call Hijackals®.  Understand what’s really going on within their volatile or passive-aggressive ways.

You particularly need to tune in if you are in any way being abused: devalued, demeaned, dismissed, and discounted verbally, emotionally, physically, sexually.

Then, see the cycles and know your best next steps: what has to change within you, and between you and the Hijackal in order to make good decisions and changes to manage these difficult, toxic–often disturbing–relationships!

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  • 10 Root Fears That Hijackals Prey On...Relentlessly
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on November 30, 2021 at 5:45 AM

    We all have things we fear, things we may not even be conscious of. Hijackals exploit your deepest root fears to manipulate and control. They make those fears worse and more real. Recognize these fears and how the Hijackal feeds them.Oxford Languages defines fear as "an unplesasant emotion caused by the believe someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat." There are many […]

  • Recognizing Relationship Trauma - Past & Present
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on November 23, 2021 at 5:46 AM

    Everyone experiences trauma differently. Frequently, folks don't recognize or acknowledge their trauma, either. This episode will help you understand how you may--or may not--have processed trauma, and why you may be recreating it, too.You cannot separate the mind from the body. They are constantly interacting and informing one another. When you have experienced trauma, both your mind and body […]

  • Why You Feel So Frozen, Stuck and Powerless With A Hijackal
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on November 9, 2021 at 5:42 AM

    The energetics of relationships with Hijackals can shut you down emotionally, and even physically. Understanding what happens within yourself and why can help you thaw, move, and take action in your own best interests. You need to hear this to empower yourself and get unstuck! You are not powerless, although you may be feeling that way. You may be so worn down and torn down that you are […]

  • What Healthy Love Is
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on November 2, 2021 at 4:15 AM

    Knowing what healthy love is allows you to examine your own relationship more accurately. Don't settle for crumbs. Wait for the full meal.Did you see healthy love growing up? Did you experience it? Did you feel it?Did it make you feel safe and loved for who you were as you grew? If you didn't experience this when you were young, you may be settling for less than is healthy now. Find out today!Dr. […]

  • 10 Surefire Signs of an Emotional Abuser
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on October 26, 2021 at 4:39 AM

    Emotional abuse. Don't ignore, tolerate, or deny it. See it clearly for what it is, AND how it is affecting you daily. Do you feel putdown, degraded, or are your feelings dismissed and discounted? Is someone trying to control you and/or manipulate you? The whole idea behind emotionally abusing you is to tear you down and wear you down to a state of emotional exhaustion. In that state, the […]

  • How Narcissistic Parents Damage Their Children - Part 1
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on October 19, 2021 at 4:45 AM

    Learn about the effects the "upside down parenting" of narcissists and other Hijackals can have on your adult life and relationships. Great insights to help you make positive changes, and life easier. First, though, you have to see it clearly to understand what really happened to you. Listen in to further understand the impact having a Hijackal parent makes. As a child, you have no experience and […]

  • How Hijackals Succeed at Emotional Blackmail
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on October 12, 2021 at 4:27 PM

    Hijackals are good at emotional blackmail. They are experts at the "Gotcha!" And, they constantly use it to their advantage. Learn more about the components of that blackmail and how to counteract them. Then, Hijackals fail to succeed at using it against you effectively!Learn what you can do to respond in empowering ways when narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social folks try to control you using […]

  • Reading the Shifting Scary Eyes of Hijackals As They Try to Control You
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on October 5, 2021 at 5:11 AM

    Yes, Hijackal's eyes are not the windows to their souls as much as windows into their fears and desires to control. It's real. You're not imagining it. You can feel safer with the insights in this episode.Research shows that humans notice faces first. Generally, that is what attracts us. Eyes tell you so much, if you interpret their messages accurately. When dealing with Hijackals--narcissistic, […]

  • Beware of Introjection & Projection!
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on September 28, 2021 at 5:02 AM

    You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in.Hijackals--people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits--play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and they work hard at being two or three steps ahead […]

  • HOW TO KEEP A HIJACKAL FROM TEARING YOU DOWN
    by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler on September 21, 2021 at 4:04 AM

    Hijackals--passive-aggressive. narcissistic. anti-social folks--thrive on tearing you down. Sometimes, it's a slow picking at you. Sometimes, it's a constant beratement. Either way, you need to stop it from getting into your head and under your skin. And, if it's already there, I'll help you get it out. Listen in.Hijackals--my word for people who hijack relationships for their own needs and […]

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