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A Healthy Relationship often feels like this:

  • “I feel relaxed most of the time, knowing that my partner has my back”
  • “I know that I can say what’s on my mind, or express my feelings, and I won’t be belittled or laughed at, or questioned about the validity of my feelings.”
  • “Most of the time I am very confident that my partner has my best interests at heart.”
  • “I have no fear about my children being treated well, or about what they are seeing or hearing from my ex.”
  • “Drama is very rare in our household.”
  • “I know where I stand, and I feel connected to my partner.”
  • “We are able to discuss very difficult or emotional things, and there is always mutual respect and compassion.”
  • “My partner/ex listens to me and we make solid agreements.”


Having a healthy, emotionally mature and intimate relationship is a thing to celebrate! 

If you’re almost there, or have been there but something’s missing lately, let’s get to the bottom of it now!

A Toxic Relationship often feels like this:

  • “I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong anymore and feel like I am going crazy.”
  • “I feel like I have to live on high alert. I don’t know what’s coming next.”
  • “Nothing I do is right or good enough.
  • “It’s always my fault…even when it isn’t.”
  • “I am confused all the time, things are unpredictably awesome or horrible, and nowhere in between.”
  • “I’m tired of the silent treatment.”
  • “Sometimes I think my partner really hates me.”
  • “I’m concerned for my children, what they’re seeing and hearing.”
  • “I’m so tired of the drama, the outbursts, the attacks, and the cycles.”
  • “Should I stay or should I go?”
  • “Can this relationship ever get better?” 


I know it’s very debilitating to feel like you never do it “right”, or well enough. These feelings come from emotional abuse.

If you’re feeling these on a regular basis, it IS time to find out what’s really going on.

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Kaizen for Couples is designed for just that. I work with lots of couples who have found themselves in a rut that's no longer comfortable.

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Struggling in a toxic situation where you are unable to breathe, are walking on eggshells and feeling sad & confused?

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