Are you in a toxic relationship? Exhausted by conflict or constant drama? Ready for things to change for the better?

Let's work together to see, eliminate, and replace anything that looks like emotional abuse in your life.
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A Toxic Relationship often feels like this:

“I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong anymore and feel like I am going crazy.”
“I feel like I have to live on high alert. I don’t know what’s coming next.”
“Nothing I do is right or good enough.
“It’s always my fault…even when it isn’t.”
“I am confused all the time, things are unpredictably awesome or horrible, and nowhere in between.”
“I’m tired of the silent treatment.”
“Sometimes I think my partner really hates me.”
“I’m concerned for my children, what they’re seeing and hearing.”
“I’m so tired of the drama, the outbursts, the attacks, and the cycles.”
“Should I stay or should I go?”
“Can this relationship ever get better?” 

I know it’s very debilitating to feel like you never do it “right”, or well enough. These feelings come from emotional abuse.

If you’re feeling these on a regular basis, it IS time to find out what’s really going on.

I know because I’ve lived through it, too…. toxic parents, partners, family, co-workers… you name it.
I have learned a lot through personal experience, and much more from my extensive studies, professionally. 

For the past 15+ years I have specialized in understanding narcissism and other personality disorders that create toxicity in relationships. I work exclusively with the partners, exes and adult children of Hijackals®.

What is a Hijackal®? I coined this word to provide a non-clinical term for those really difficult people in our lives.

A person who hijacks relationships, for their own purposes, while scavenging them for power, status, and control. Hijackals make you question your sanity and constantly second-guess yourself. That’s their game and they are very good at it! They play to win at any cost.

Being in relationship with a Hijackal leaves  you feeling exhausted,  anxious, and uncertain. Unfortunately, you might also feel guilty, like you just didn’t do enough, give enough, or be enough. And, that’s not true! 

Whether you want freedom IN, or freedom FROM, your toxic relationship, we can work together to get clarity on your next best steps!

I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I want to help you to stop the seemingly endless cycle of conflicts, miscommunications, crazy-making habits, alienation, and constant drama.

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