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I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I want to help you to stop the seemingly endless cycle of conflicts, miscommunications, crazy-making habits, alienation, and constant drama.
You’re in the right place for relationship help.
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If you have a relentlessly difficult partner, ex, parent, or co-worker–I call them Hijackals®, I can help you stop the crazy-making and save your sanity. I’ve had them, too, and I have both the experience and expertise to see what’s really going on!
Are you walking on eggshells, never sure, or comfortable about what to say or do next to avoid high conflict and blame? That needs to stop. I can help.
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You are in the right place for relationship help, just like these folks:
What’s going on in your relationship? Do these things feel familiar?
“I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong anymore and feel like I am going crazy.”
“Nothing I do is right or good enough.“
“It’s always my fault…even when it isn’t.”
“I’m so tired of the drama, the outbursts, the attacks, and the cycles.”
I know it’s very debilitating to feel like you never do it “right”, or well enough. That every time you become hopeful that you can find honesty and safety, you are taking a risk that seldom turns out to improve communication, or resolve conflicts.
I know because I’ve lived through it, too.
It leaves you feeling exhausted, anxious, and uncertain. Unfortunately, you might also feel guilty, like you just didn’t do enough, give enough, or be enough. And, that’s not true!
Do you feel constantly manipulated by the person who is supposed to love you the most? Like no matter what you do, your partner is always critical and unhappy with you? This experience feels deeply lonely and isolated.
Are you accepting blame for things that are not your fault?
Are you trying to please someone who makes it a point to never be pleased?
Are you often feeling attacked as a parent or co-parent? Are your kids are pawns in the middle of your relationship? That can cause you to feel frequently betrayed, or, like an outsider in your own family.
In situations like this, there is no equality, reciprocity, or mutuality. That’s unhealthy. Those are absolutely necessary ingredients for a healthy relationship!
If you could fix it on your own, you would have by now, right? It’s time to come for relationship help.
Does your partner make everything your fault?
Does your partner refuse to take responsibility for any part in the relationship?
Do you feel as though your partner does not care about what you think, feel, need, or want?
Or worse, does s/he try to tell you what you should think or feel? To define your reality?
It’s time for relationship help, for sure.
Healing takes time. You’ve taken the first step:
You’re here. This is the right place for relationship help.
Are you experiencing anything like these in your relationship?
Strong people get help.
Other people think they don’t deserve better, and give their power away instead.
I hope that won’t be you.