About Rhoberta

The Relationship Help Doctor
Host: Save Your Sanity Podcast – Help for Toxic Relationships


The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as “people who hijack relationships–for their own purposes–while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.”

Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence–and your sanity–when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work. 

Author of sixteen books, including her Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap, and, Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she is the host of the popular podcast,  Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships.  She is the former host of the Emotional Savvy channel on Binge TV Networks.

Dr. Shaler’s work has been featured on PsychCentral, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Your Tango, The Good Men Project, and eHarmony, among many others. 

Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and tips for relationships and has reached over a million views.


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That could be true if you are:

  • Being put down, torn down, or worn down by a difficult partner
  • Missing emotional intimacy and true partnership
  • Tired of constant drama
  • Raised by Toxic Parents
  • Too much crazing-making conflict
  • Need help dealing with someone who is relentlessly difficult, if not downright impossible! 

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Relationships in conflict foster fear, frenzy and friction. They can be crazy-making, causing you to second-guess yourself, or question your sanity. Dr. Shaler calms the turbulence of troubled relationships, offering the insights, strategies, and pattern-breaking skills that lead to creating blame-free, game-free, non-manipulative relationships.

She consults with people worldwide through Zoom video conferencing, helping to discover the possibilities for restoring connections, improving communication, and deepening emotional intimacy, when possible.

Dr. Shaler helps her clients clarify their thoughts, feelings, wants, and needs now, leading to healthier decisions for relationships, together or apart.

Author of sixteen personal growth and relationship books, her most recent ones help those struggling with relationships with chronically difficult people, the Hijackals.

Dr. Shaler has been featured on PsychCentral, CosmopolitanGood HousekeepingThe Good Men Project, eHarmony, Care2, GreatistPulse, and YourTango, among many others.


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YouTube channel: ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and skills. Join her each Monday evening, at 6 PM Pacific Time for her livestream, Help for Toxic Relationships. Subscribe.

Podcasts:  Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships   New episodes twice a week, wherever you prefer to find your podcasts.

Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show (Now archived, with over 100 episodes to listen to.)

If you want further information regarding The Relationship Help Doctor and media interviews or professional speaking, see her press kit, visit

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