Help for Handling Hijackals

How to Spot a Hijackal

An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.

Escaping the Hijackal Trap

Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard. 

Be Narcissist Proof

Boost your resilience and resistance to Hijackals in your future. You deserve to live free of emotional and verbal abuse. Learn how to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.

Dive Deeper & Learn More

I have an extensive library of videos and podcast episodes that cover a wide range of toxic relationship issues.

Buy books & audio

Need to work up to doing the work? Grab one or two of my ebooks or audio “booster shots” to get you started.

Work with Dr. Shaler

When you know you’re ready to start really doing the work to build your own strength, navigate issues with your partner, or make a plan for next steps, work with me directly.

What folks have said…

I stumbled (by no accident) across your podcasts 2 years ago after my X had raged and then was giving me the usual silent treatment. I credit all your sound advice for my finally understanding and getting out of the most abusive relationship I’d been in. I’ve only been with Hijackals. I’m blown away how much more discerning I am of future Hijackals. I spot them immediately and don’t have the urge to help them. Your work has transformed my life. I’ll keep reading/listening and learning.… Read more

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Do you know a Hijackal?

If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.

Not sure what a Hijackal looks like? This free ebook can help you know what to look for.

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Still not sure?

I have 100s of podcast episodes and videos to help you to successfully navigate the journey from recognizing to recovering and rebuilding after toxic relationships with Hijackals® and other narcissistic or anti-social people.

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