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Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: http://www.EmergingEmpowered.com Podcast: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com EE Community: http://www.JoinInToday.com Work with Dr. Shaler: http://www.beaclient.com Subscribe to Newsletter: http://www.hijackalhelp.com Blog: http://www.narcissismblog.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hijackals Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler Pinterest: @RhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) http://www.BeAClient.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: http://www.JoinInToday.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
Relationship Advice from The Relationship Help Doctor
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Find yourself afraid you're not good enough? You won't be hired? You won't be wanted? Loved? Accepted? Fear of rejection may be the culprit underlying those thoughts. SO IMPORTANT to recognize so you can overcome the fears that may be holding you back from healthier relationships with yourself and others...including the NASTY Hijackals! Listen in. Recognize the limitations that the fear of rejection creates in your life, so you can reject it! No need to allow that fear to rule. See it. Reject it. Change it! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: - Dr. Shaler's definition of emotional abuse - How you feel when you fear rejection - How fear of rejection limits your life & relationships - How Hijackal (narcissistic) parents control you with this fear Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: http://www.EmergingEmpowered.com Podcast: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com EE Community: http://www.JoinInToday.com Work with Dr. Shaler: http://www.beaclient.com Subscribe to Newsletter: http://www.hijackalhelp.com Blog: http://www.narcissismblog.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hijackals Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler Pinterest: @RhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) http://www.BeAClient.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: http://www.JoinInToday.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #emotionalabuse #fearofrejection #narcissists #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #difficultpeople #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
How Emotional Abuse Creates Fear of Rejection
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This is an episode of Transform Your Relationships, a video podcast by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and Laura Rubinstein, CHt. Originally recorded on: Feb 20, 2020 Our Transform Your Relationships Series addresses tough to talk about situations in personal and professional relationships. Your sanity matters. Take on your personal power, enrich your life and create more joy. More about Laura Rubinstein - https://TransformToday.com More about Dr. Shaler below! ********************** Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
How to Get Unpleasant People Out of Your Head
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Transform Your Relationships with Laura Rubinstein, CHt, and Rhoberta Shaler, PhD We're talking about competition and how it affects relationships today. Transform Your Relationships - Live chats https://www.facebook.com/TransformYourRelationshipsLIVE/ Dealing with the tough to talk about situations in personal and professional relationships. Your sanity matters. Take on your personal power, enrich your life and create more joy. Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: http://www.EmergingEmpowered.com Podcast: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com EE Community: http://www.JoinInToday.com Work with Dr. Shaler: http://www.beaclient.com Subscribe to Newsletter: http://www.hijackalhelp.com Blog: http://www.narcissismblog.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hijackals Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler Pinterest: @RhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) http://www.BeAClient.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: http://www.JoinInToday.com ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #competition #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
Competition is a Relationship Killer
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