How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
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What folks have said…
Wow! This episode [on facial coding] helped me paint the entire picture that I’ve had a hard time trying to put my finger on all these years… I’ve been listening now since June and your messages have helped me so very much! I did leave him finally in June and I am trying to establish my life and career again- it is starting over- but the peace in my soul from understanding I’m not crazy ( as he told me I was) and I’m not alone in the comfort I felt staying in that horrible trap he had me c… Read more
Wow, listening to this made me feel as if you are actually speaking to me. Thank you.
Wonderful, you’re a fairy!!! Your true words go into my body and soul like an antidote, thank you so much!
I can HEAR the genuine concern you have for others in your voice. You are a beautiful soul and I thank you for your service to others’ well-being! 🙏
Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.
Great job! I love all of your videos! I filed for divorce and your videos helped me to do it without crying! You helped me to see clearly now that I deserve so much more. Thank you for your amazing work.
I have tried being part of your livestreams; however, our time zones are different-the podcasts are livestreamed early in the morning. Nonetheless, I always watch the recorded videos. You have changed my life and helped me find life again. Thank you, with love from Capetown, South Africa
Thank you very much for your love and joy of teaching others to use our gifts and talents more fully. I am enjoying my gift of being “present!”
So thankful for all this help you share <3 I Found your channel just in the right timing. All you explain is like you are living inside my marriage and outer circle. I am going to love reading your books for more information, so that I know the how to’s in the near future. It’s amazing that I still hold on to my sanity, whilst having to deal with all this lunatic behavior. Although my health took a big toll, and it’s no wonder, so much frustration and let-downs, questioning the what happened, I … Read more
Raised by, and all partners have been Hijackals. The last,was the most damaging. Thanks to you, after nearly 5 years of Severe verbal and emotional abuse, I’m out! I recommend you to women I meet who are in same boat. I’ve learned so much from you, the cycle is over!! Thank You ❤️
Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
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