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HELP FOR BREAKING THE BONDS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Learn About the effects their "upside down parenting" can have on your adult life and relationships. Great insights to help you make positive changes, and life easier. First, though, you have to see it. Join in. Ask your questions, too.
How Narcissistic Parents Damage Their Children
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Do you feel lost because you've given all that you have and more to a relationship? Is all that giving still not enough in the mind of the other person? It's exhausting. Dr. Sherry Cormier is the author of "Sweet Sorrow: Finding Enduring Wholeness After Loss & Grief". Join in the conversation. * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
OVERCOMING THE GRIEF OF LOSING YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIP
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Hijackals are good at emotional blackmail. They are experts at the "Gotcha!" And, they constantly use it to their advantage. Learn more about the components of that blackmail and how to counteract them. Then, Hijackals will fail to succeed at using it against you effectively! Learn what you can do to respond in empowering ways when narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social folks try to control you using emotional blackmail. This episode will help you understand how that emotional blackmail shows up, what its desired result is, and how to say no to it. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 🔹The connection between blackmail and emotional blackmail 🔹Dr. Susan Forward's book, Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You 🔹How a pattern of emotional blackmail is established and maintained 🔹Better strategies than compliance when a narcissistic person uses emotional blackmail 🔹Responding to emotional blackmail purposefully to emerge empowered Healthier people aren't looking to control you. They care what you want, think, feel, and need. Hijackals don't. So, you need strategies for working within yourself and with the Hijackal to stop the emotional blackmail. Emotional blackmail according to Dr. Susan Forward: "when people close to us threaten, directly or indirectly punish us, when we don't do what they want." Does that sound familiar? You can stop it. Listen in. * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Subscribe and keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #emotionalblackmail #manipulation #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
HOW HIJACKALS SUCCEED AT EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL...and How To Make Them Fail!
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Yes, Hijackal's eyes are not the windows to their souls as much as windows into their fears and desires to control. It's real. You're not imagining it. You can feel safer with the insights in this episode of Save Your Sanity. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 👁The different ways narcissistic and psychopathic people look at you 👁Why it it important to recognize what a narcissist wants most from you 👁5 different ways people with narcissistic, borderline, and anti-social tendencies look at you (None of them good!) 👁How to respond to the different warnings in their eyes effectively Research shows that humans notice faces first. Generally, that is what attracts us. Eyes tell you so much, if you interpret their messages accurately. When dealing with Hijackals--narcissistic, borderline, anti-social, and histrionic folks, you MUST get the messages clearly or you'll be damaged, emotionally, if not physically. That's why this episode is particularly important. Healthy people want to read healthier things into peoples' expressions. You must not do that when you're with Hijackals. You have to believe what is written on their faces or you will be in trouble. Misinterpreting the messages in their eyes can be dangerous. Not believing those messages? More dangerous. Rage eyes. Vacant eyes, Dead eyes, Black Eyes, Psychopathic Stares. Do you know the difference? Do you know what they indicate? Do you know how to keep yourself safer? Listen in. * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
READING THE SHIFTING SCARY EYES OF HIJACKALS
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