How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
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What folks have said…
That was such a well done interview and so helpful to me! –I took 11 pages of notes! –
Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.
Woah, a bone chilling presentation!! Wish I’d heard it about 10 years ago!
In this program, the information shared was very enlightening. The Personal Weather Report(TM) is a great tool to use everyday and I get in touch with my thoughts, feelings, needs, ad wants. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler really knows the dynamics of relationships.
Hey!! Thank you so much for your podcast!! Your genuine care of others in taking the time to generate the information in this podcast emits itself so strongly!!! It has brought me to tears, helped me to identify behaviors, and finally given me the ability put a name with a face! I would love to maybe speak with you one on one at some point. …thanks again! 💕
This content has helped me tremendously. I now have tools to recognize and name the tactics being thrown at me and I have become much more empowered to stand in my truth and to stand up for myself. Highly recommend subscribing to all content – a cost effective alternative to (and/or supplementation to) therapy. Thank you Dr. Shaler!
Thanks to you, I saw a pattern and realized I was being manipulated. After a very abusive day yesterday I ended the relationship. Thank you for the strength my friend.
So thankful for all this help you share <3 I Found your channel just in the right timing. All you explain is like you are living inside my marriage and outer circle. I am going to love reading your books for more information, so that I know the how to’s in the near future. It’s amazing that I still hold on to my sanity, whilst having to deal with all this lunatic behavior. Although my health took a big toll, and it’s no wonder, so much frustration and let-downs, questioning the what happened, I … Read more
Came across this podcast while going through a very emotional and confusing time, and it’s been super helpful in highlighting lots of things that got overshadowed by past trauma that I couldn’t see clearly. It really feels like someone understands and can guide you to see more transparently and get through the difficult time in a toxic relationship. So thank you!
I enjoyed this program very much. There were tons of interesting anecdotes and advice and information. I feel like I gained a lot of insights and wisdom that will serve me well down the way in the future. I also feel like I met some really great people in my fellow classmates.
Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
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