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HELP FOR BREAKING THE BONDS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Everyone experiences trauma differently. Frequently, folks don't recognize or acknowledge their trauma, either. This episode will help you understand how you may--or may not--have processed trauma, and why we may be recreating it, too. Listen in. Ask your questions.
RECOGNIZING RELATIONSHIP TRAUMA - Past & Present
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Even pastors can be abusive! When it's done while betraying you and the beliefs they espouse, it is damaging in so many ways. It shakes your core. And, yes, other folks can also be spiritually abusive. Listen in. Ask your questions.
SPIRITUAL ABUSE: Sad. Real. Betraying.
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The energetics of relationships with Hijackals can shut you down emotionally, and even physically. Understanding what happens within yourself and why can help you thaw, move, and take action in your own best interests. You need to hear this to empower yourself and get unstuck! You are not powerless, although you may be feeling that way. You may be so worn down and torn down that you are overwhelmed by the negative energy that is always being sent your way. We are energetic beings. We need to be balancing the positive and negative energy, the heightened and depressed energy, and therefore, we need to recognize when we are receiving or feeling too much charge, or the opposite: feeling depleted and exhausted. And, we need to know what's causing it. In this episode, I talk about the energetic interchanges of relationships with Hijackal--narcissists and anti-social folks, too. Want to talk about your relationship? . I'm here to help. * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
WHY YOU FEEL SO FROZEN, STUCK & POWERLESS with a Hijackal
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THIS IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR WELL-BEING! You need to know what healthy love is so you won't settle for less. Maybe, you did not receive healthy love as a child, so you have no experience with it. Maybe, you're in an emotionally abusive relationship, and you've forgotten what healthy love is. Listen in. Ask your questions. Knowing what healthy love is allows you to examine your own relationship more accurately. Don't settle for crumbs. Wait for the full meal. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: ❣ Where we get our contexts for healthy love ❣ The necessary balance between autonomy and intimacy ❣ A definition of healthy love ❣ The 3 must-haves of a healthy adult relationship ❣ Creating healthy partnership Did you see healthy love growing up? Did you experience it? Did you feel it? Did it make you feel safe and loved for who you were as you grew? If you didn't experience this when you were young, you may be settling for less than is healthy now. Find out today! Dr. Shaler's definition of "healthy love:" "Healthy love has an equitable balance between autonomy and intimacy, demonstrates equality, reciprocity, and mutuality and operates with honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability. Then, it is a partnership, greater than the sum of its parts." Is this what you're experiencing in your primary romantic relationship? Make it your goal. Don't settle for less. * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #healthylove #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
What Healthy Love Is
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