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**TW - CONVERSATION ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND HOW IT'S BEING REDEFINED by some institutions. This may be a difficult video for some people who have experienced violence and suffered trauma, or been dismissed by police or other services. IF YOU ARE IN A SITUATION THAT INVOLVES DOMESTIC VIOLENCE please reach out to services in your neighbourhood who can assist you in finding a safe, secure place to be. In North America, you can get support if you're in immediate physical danger by calling 9-1-1. In the UK call 9-9-9. USA: https://www.thehotline.org/ - National Domestic Violence Hotline CANADA: https://ShelterSafe.ca provides information to help connect women and their children across Canada with the nearest shelter for safety and support. MEXICO: https://www.fgjcdmx.gob.mx/cavi - CAVI Centro de Atención a la Violencia Intrafamiliar UK: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help#get-help-and-support AUSTRALIA: https://1800respect.org.au/ - National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service https://au.reachout.com/articles/domestic-violence-support EUROPE: https://ec.europa.eu/justice/saynostopvaw/helpline.html - helpline directory SOUTH AFRICA: https://www.gov.za/faq/justice-and-crime-prevention/where-can-i-find-organisation-offers-assistance-victims-violence - government directory This is an episode of Transform Your Relationships, a video podcast by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and Laura Rubinstein, CHt. Originally recorded on: April 27, 2021 Our Transform Your Relationships Series addresses tough to talk about situations in personal and professional relationships. Your sanity matters. Take on your personal power, enrich your life and create more joy. More about Laura Rubinstein - https://TransformToday.com More about Dr. Shaler below! ********************** Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
Domestic Violence Defined
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A year ago today we broadcast this episode of Transform Your Relationships... How have things changed for you in the past 365 days? Better? Worse? Just different? Leave a comment below if you'd like to share. ❣ This is an episode of Transform Your Relationships, a video podcast by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and Laura Rubinstein, CHt. Originally recorded on: May 11, 2021 Our Transform Your Relationships Series addresses tough to talk about situations in personal and professional relationships. Your sanity matters. Take on your personal power, enrich your life and create more joy. More about Laura Rubinstein - https://TransformToday.com More about Dr. Shaler below! ********************** Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
How the Pandemic Can Affect Your Mental Health
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**TW - we discuss childhood and relationship trauma in this episode ** Relief! Yes, you think you'll feel it when you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, and you will...in some ways. Then, in too many ways, the Hijackal is likely to do everything possible to exert continued control over you...and, over your children. Eight ways Hijackals continue to exert control. Is it happening to you? (NOTE: This episode ends abruptly due to technical issues.) HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: - How domestic violence and domestic abuse can continue after separation - What post-separation abuse is - 6 ways to prepare for after leaving a Hijackal ( or anyone who is narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, psychopathic, or sociopathic) - How ACEs--Adverse Childhood Experiences--often follow separating from a Hijackal - Preparing to be safe after leaving an abuser Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
Nasty Ways Hijackals Perpetrate Post-Separation Abuse
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This is an episode of Transform Your Relationships, a video podcast by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and Laura Rubinstein, CHt. Originally recorded on: October 12, 2021 Our Transform Your Relationships Series addresses tough to talk about situations in personal and professional relationships. Your sanity matters. Take on your personal power, enrich your life and create more joy. More about Laura Rubinstein - https://TransformToday.com More about Dr. Shaler below! ********************** Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUrA8OOsnesxc333Nq5La9Q/join * * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * * and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane. No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out. CONNECT WITH ME: Website: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter: @RhobertaShaler LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler Instagram: @DrRhobertaShaler YouTube: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp Get my free ebook at http://www.Hijackals.com Take my free checklists: https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/checklists Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships? I can help. You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics.. When you're ready, let's talk. You can take advantage of my one-time. new client introductory Consultation here (only $97 for a full hour) https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com/join ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ WANT A SAFE PLACE-- off social media-- TO TALK, ASK QUESTIONS, GET EXPERT ANSWERS & SUPPORT? Join my Emerging Empowered Community, online: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/community ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Explore my eCourses to build your confidence in dealing with narcissistic people. https://for-relationship-help.thinkific.com/ #boundaries #Hijackals #toxicpeople #narcissists #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #narcissisticabuse #personalitydisorder ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This content has been created and recorded for the general interest and information of the viewer/listener. Nothing said or implied on this site should be taken, or construed in any way, as legal advice, or personal advice of any kind. It is entirely informational, offering readers, viewers, subscribers, followers, and members educational resources, anecdotes, case studies, and stories. Optimize Life Now LLC & Rhoberta Shaler, PhD makes no representations about the suitability of the content of this site for any purpose. All content is provided “as is” without any warranty of any kind.
Communication is About Connecting...or, Not...
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