How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
Be Narcissist Proof
Boost your resilience and resistance to Hijackals in your future. You deserve to live free of emotional and verbal abuse. Learn how to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.
Dive Deeper & Learn More
I have an extensive library of videos and podcast episodes that cover a wide range of toxic relationship issues.
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Need to work up to doing the work? Grab one or two of my ebooks or audio “booster shots” to get you started.
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When you know you’re ready to start really doing the work to build your own strength, navigate issues with your partner, or make a plan for next steps, work with me directly.
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I’ve just found your podcast this week, coincidentally on the 1st anniversary of my best friend’s death, man what a wake up! My wife is a Hijackal, Did everything you say. You might as well describe my wife by name. So I just wanted to say thank you, as I write this with tears in my eyes I know the road is long but it has to happen. Thank you for opening my eyes and giving me some oxygen and removing the blur.
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Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
Not sure what a Hijackal looks like? This free ebook can help you know what to look for.
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from recognizing to recovering and rebuilding after toxic relationships with Hijackals® and other narcissistic or anti-social people.
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