How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
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What folks have said…
I’m so relieved. I’ve been to several [sic:counselors] who sided with my crazy-making partner. Finally, someone who gets it, knows the feeling, sees the problem, and has helped me take positive steps.
Hey!! Thank you so much for your podcast!! Your genuine care of others in taking the time to generate the information in this podcast emits itself so strongly!!! It has brought me to tears, helped me to identify behaviors, and finally given me the ability put a name with a face! I would love to maybe speak with you one on one at some point. …thanks again! 💕
I stumbled (by no accident) across your podcasts 2 years ago after my X had raged and then was giving me the usual silent treatment. I credit all your sound advice for my finally understanding and getting out of the most abusive relationship I’d been in. I’ve only been with Hijackals. I’m blown away how much more discerning I am of future Hijackals. I spot them immediately and don’t have the urge to help them. Your work has transformed my life. I’ll keep reading/listening and learning.… Read more
I enjoyed this program very much. There were tons of interesting anecdotes and advice and information. I feel like I gained a lot of insights and wisdom that will serve me well down the way in the future. I also feel like I met some really great people in my fellow classmates.
Ah ! Because of this page and your help . You’re an angel, honestly. I would still be doing the same thing I was doing a year ago if I hadn’t met you.
I will always be beholden to you and your expertise. Being sincerely indebted to you. My battle was with my Intuition and perception contrary to what the Shrewd Narcissist wanted me to believe once I was given shelter in their make-believe Dungeon and world of smoke and mirrors.
Thanks for the vid!, make more please. 🙂
All I can say is OMG. 29 years. I cried with relief and understanding and validate I am not crazy or hard of hearing.
Wow! This episode [on facial coding] helped me paint the entire picture that I’ve had a hard time trying to put my finger on all these years… I’ve been listening now since June and your messages have helped me so very much! I did leave him finally in June and I am trying to establish my life and career again- it is starting over- but the peace in my soul from understanding I’m not crazy ( as he told me I was) and I’m not alone in the comfort I felt staying in that horrible trap he had me c… Read more
I love you Rhoberta Shaler; you have given me such power, inner strength, wisdom and invaluable insights. Thank you!
Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
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