How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
Be Narcissist Proof
Boost your resilience and resistance to Hijackals in your future. You deserve to live free of emotional and verbal abuse. Learn how to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.
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What folks have said…
Wow, listening to this made me feel as if you are actually speaking to me. Thank you.
Dr. Shaler, you have just described my previous life!!! I was married to a hijackal for almost 20 years and left 10 years ago. It has taken me 10 years to recover, but I did. Where were you 10 years ago??? I so hope you can help others who feel trapped and crazy as I did. Thank you!
I thought I may never have this freedom, I actually felt very little when he tried to pull me in. Thank You THANK You ?
All I can say is OMG. 29 years. I cried with relief and understanding and validate I am not crazy or hard of hearing.
Wonderful, you’re a fairy!!! Your true words go into my body and soul like an antidote, thank you so much!
I found Dr. Shaler to be very knowledgeable with many solutions to relationship challenges.
I loved the science of facial coding recognition introduced by Dr Hill. I intuitively used it in my childhood to escape a beating from my anger addicted Mom. The facial change was a shift in her energy field which opening the curtain to her feelings and helped me get away. It is a life saving technique for everyone living with an abusive person. Thanks so much Rhoberta and Dr Hill for sharing your knowledge.
I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.I have set some boundrie… Read more
I’m thankful you’re getting the word out, Dr. Shaler! It has made a life-changing difference for me.
Thank you for another great episode. Those master manipulators are tricky. We need all the ammunition we can get to survive this emotional warfare.
Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
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