How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
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Boost your resilience and resistance to Hijackals in your future. You deserve to live free of emotional and verbal abuse. Learn how to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.
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When you know you’re ready to start really doing the work to build your own strength, navigate issues with your partner, or make a plan for next steps, work with me directly.
What folks have said…
Wonderful, you’re a fairy!!! Your true words go into my body and soul like an antidote, thank you so much!
Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.
I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.I have set some boundrie… Read more
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Thank you Dr. Shaler, and may I just say, thank you for your work and your writings. You may have no idea just how much of a lifeline i have been thrown just by finding you and now your group.
As foretold, my ex got busy trying to engage me on Christmas Day. Thank you, Dr. Shaler for the heads up. Because of this page and your help, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas and not get sucked in ! That’s progress.
In this program, the information shared was very enlightening. The Personal Weather Report(TM) is a great tool to use everyday and I get in touch with my thoughts, feelings, needs, ad wants. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler really knows the dynamics of relationships.
So thankful for all this help you share <3 I Found your channel just in the right timing. All you explain is like you are living inside my marriage and outer circle. I am going to love reading your books for more information, so that I know the how to’s in the near future. It’s amazing that I still hold on to my sanity, whilst having to deal with all this lunatic behavior. Although my health took a big toll, and it’s no wonder, so much frustration and let-downs, questioning the what happened, I … Read more
Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
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