How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
Be Narcissist Proof
Boost your resilience and resistance to Hijackals in your future. You deserve to live free of emotional and verbal abuse. Learn how to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.
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What folks have said…
I will always be beholden to you and your expertise. Being sincerely indebted to you. My battle was with my Intuition and perception contrary to what the Shrewd Narcissist wanted me to believe once I was given shelter in their make-believe Dungeon and world of smoke and mirrors.
I love you Rhoberta Shaler; you have given me such power, inner strength, wisdom and invaluable insights. Thank you!
Raised by, and all partners have been Hijackals. The last,was the most damaging. Thanks to you, after nearly 5 years of Severe verbal and emotional abuse, I’m out! I recommend you to women I meet who are in same boat. I’ve learned so much from you, the cycle is over!! Thank You ❤️
I sincerely appreciate diligent and experiential experts like you. I owe you one for my going no contact with the Covert Narcissist both episodically and for good…The untold story is yet to be shared. I’m both assertive and positive.
That was such a well done interview and so helpful to me! –I took 11 pages of notes! –
Thank you Dr. Shaler, and may I just say, thank you for your work and your writings. You may have no idea just how much of a lifeline i have been thrown just by finding you and now your group.
I stumbled (by no accident) across your podcasts 2 years ago after my X had raged and then was giving me the usual silent treatment. I credit all your sound advice for my finally understanding and getting out of the most abusive relationship I’d been in. I’ve only been with Hijackals. I’m blown away how much more discerning I am of future Hijackals. I spot them immediately and don’t have the urge to help them. Your work has transformed my life. I’ll keep reading/listening and learning.… Read more
Woah, a bone chilling presentation!! Wish I’d heard it about 10 years ago!
The help and information you share makes me feel I can breathe again. I am not alone in this. Thank you.
I’m so relieved. I’ve been to several [sic:counselors] who sided with my crazy-making partner. Finally, someone who gets it, knows the feeling, sees the problem, and has helped me take positive steps.
Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
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