Hijackals®, aka chronically difficult people at work, can create a daily hell when you have to interact with them. How do they show up and what can you do with them?
A few weeks ago, my colleague and friend, Robert Imbriale, invited me to talk about my term, Hijackals--those chronically difficult people at work--on his TV show, The Marketing Network. I was so glad to have this conversation with him on air because there are so many people suffering in the workplace, wondering if it's worth it for face the Hijackal every day.
What is a Hijackal? A Hijackal is a person who hijacks a relationship, for his/her own purposes, while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control.
Does that sound like someone you've been trying to avoid? Probably is, and because of the nature of Hijackals, they simply won't be avoided or ignored! I'll bet you've noticed that. They will even follow you into the washroom if need be. In fact, they prefer to trap you in private because others don't hear.
Your Hijackal may be the boss who is a real "witch on wheels" when in your cubicle, but who gets up and makes a company-wide speech about cooperation, collaboration, and a peaceful workplace. Right? It makes you crazy!
I'm sharing the video I made with Robert Imbriale here, so that you can really get the full picture about these troubling folks...and, some solid suggestions for how to handle them while keeping your sanity. It's not easy. Many of my clients tell me that, until we talked, they were constantly second-guessing themselves and questioning their sanity!
If you had a parent who was a bit crazy-making, who didn't validate, praise, or even see you, you will really be hit by a Hijackal in the workplace. And, unfortunately, with their "Hadar" (Hijackal radar) they have an uncanny way of sniffing you out and making your life particularly miserable. You need insights and strategies now!
I hope you enjoy this video--well, maybe not so much enjoy as find it valuable. It's not you, it's them. But, you are interacting with them and you want to do it from a place of strength, clarity, and assertiveness.
I hope this helps. Let me know in the comment section of the blog. And, if you have a question, ask it there.
You can also get my free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, at Hijackals.com
If you have a #Hijackal in your life, or think you might have, and need help to know your next best steps - subscribe to my Tips for Relationships, and listen to my Podcasts. Or, better yet, start with an introductory session. Talk soon!
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Relationship Help Doctor
Disclaimer: all advice, insights and suggestions made here are not to be construed as psychological or legal advice. Any actions you undertake as a result of reading any article, book, ebook or blog post from Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, are entirely your own. Having worked with individuals and couples for more than twenty-five years, she offers her opinions for your consideration only.