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Things always your fault? It's crazy-making.

Always Your Fault? Always Wrong? You May Be With A Hijackal.

Is everything–somehow–always your fault? Do you so much want to believe your partner loves you, yet, you are so frequently being hurt? Do you justify your partner’s behavior with “S/he is just having a bad day, a bad time, under stress” too often? People who cannot allow themselves to think for one minute that something…

Verbal Abuse And How To Stop It

Are you experiencing verbal abuse? Are you allowing yourself to call it what it is? Or, do you make excuses for it, justify it? When you call your partner on it, does s/he say you’re too sensitive? Do you really believe that? You don’t set out to be in a difficult relationship, but, you’re often Read More > >

Hijackals never stop finding fault and demanding control and power

Anger & Aggression Ruin Relationships. Think About This.

When there is anger and aggression, do the wise thing: look inward first. Why start with you? Because you can’t change others! Be wise. Start with yourself. Anger and aggression? Other people can be crazy-making. No doubt! And, they can be scary: demeaning, belittling, demanding, threatening. All those things are aggressive. And, you so want…

Difficult People At Work Make You Want to Stay Home

Hijackals®, aka chronically difficult people at work, can create a daily hell when you have to interact with them. How do they show up and what can you do with them? A few weeks ago, my colleague and friend, Robert Imbriale, invited me to talk about my term, Hijackals–those chronically difficult people at work–on his…

Relationship Advice: Is Your Friend’s Relationship Emotionally Dangerous?

Are you afraid that your friend is in an emotionally dangerous relationship? Here’s some immediate relationship help, so you can share it with your friend right away. You want your friend to be safe, yet you see his or her partner behaving in less-than-loving ways too often. How can you know if s/he is in…

Passive Aggressive Relationships – When Is It Abuse?

Passive Aggressive Abuse in Relationships Leaving you shaking your head in disbelief, it’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are dead ends with no escape. You may even be dealing with a Hijackal®! It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! It requires relationship help! It’s covert, stealthy even! You’re…

Mediation Services to solve relationship problems

If you are having relationship problems at home or at work,  I can help. Conflict is inevitable. Combat can leave you dead right, but, dead nonetheless! Mediation creates clarity, communication & collaboration to live with new agreements. – Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Whether you are focused on improving your relationship, or ending it, my clients say Read More > >