Have you ever lived with, or worked with or for, S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased? No matter how much attention, time or effort you give something, it is not good enough. No matter how much you offer, you are discounted for not offering more, or for not offering something different. Relationship problems result. Does it…
Is everything–somehow–always your fault? Do you so much want to believe your partner loves you, yet, you are so frequently being hurt? Do you justify your partner’s behavior with “S/he is just having a bad day, a bad time, under stress” too often? People who cannot allow themselves to think for one minute that something…
Are you experiencing verbal abuse? Are you allowing yourself to call it what it is? Or, do you make excuses for it, justify it? When you call your partner on it, does s/he say you’re too sensitive? Do you really believe that? You don’t set out to be in a difficult relationship, but, you’re often Read More > >
When there is anger and aggression, do the wise thing: look inward first. Why start with you? Because you can’t change others! Be wise. Start with yourself. Anger and aggression? Other people can be crazy-making. No doubt! And, they can be scary: demeaning, belittling, demanding, threatening. All those things are aggressive. And, you so want…
Hijackals™, aka chronically difficult people at work, can create a daily hell when you have to interact with them. How do they show up and what can you do with them? A few weeks ago, my colleague and friend, Robert Imbriale, invited me to talk about my term, Hijackals™–those chronically difficult people at work–on his…
Are you afraid that your friend is in an emotionally dangerous relationship? Here’s some immediate relationship help, so you can share it with your friend right away. You want your friend to be safe, yet you see his or her partner behaving in less-than-loving ways too often. How can you know if s/he is in…
When you want to scream but you have to speak respectfully, this post might help. Read on…
One of the relationship questions I am often asked is: “what do I do–and what does it mean–when my partner wants to ‘take a break’? ” To the person hearing it, it usually doesn’t sound like a good thing. For the person saying it, it can be a relationship saver–in the right conditions. “I think we…
Passive Aggressive Abuse in Relationships Leaving you shaking your head in disbelief, it’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are dead ends with no escape. You may even be dealing with a Hijackal*! It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! It requires relationship help! It’s covert, stealthy even! You’re…
If you are having relationship problems at home or at work, I can help. Conflict is inevitable. Combat can leave you dead right, but, dead nonetheless! Mediation creates clarity, communication & collaboration to live with new agreements. – Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Whether you are focused on improving your relationship, or ending it, my clients say Read More > >
