Repeating The Same Fight? It’s Not About What You Think It’s About!

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Most couples have “that” fight, over and over. It’s the one thing that never gets resolved. The one thing that doesn’t change. One, or both of you, think it should. But nothing changes. Are you repeating the same fight? Know this for sure: the fight is not about what you think it is about!  And, […]

Oops! Are You Enabling A Narcissist? Steps to Stopping

You may not realize what counts as enabling when dealing with a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal®. Gain some clarity and insights into good steps to take to stop enabling now. Because you are good, kind, compassionate, or pleasing person, you may not realize the ways in which you are enabling a narcissist to continue […]

Do you ever think ‘I’m Feeling Taken For Granted In My Relationship?”

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Feeling taken for granted is an underlying relationship problem that can pop up regularly. It wears many disguises in a relationship. When your partner finds ways to justify behavior that leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported, it’s likely that you will start feeling taken for granted. S/he just expects that you will somehow understand […]

How Being Afraid To Call It Abuse Can Keep You Stuck In It

Nice people often go the extra mile to excuse abusive behaviors in toxic relationships. Dangerous! We all can have a bad moment, or even a bad day. BUT, do you rationalize, justify, and make excuses for the consistently bad behavior of someone towards you? That’s a problem. No matter who it is in your life–parent, […]

Are Your Boundaries Secure, Or Too Porous To Keep You Safe?


Are your boundaries secure or about as porous as a flow-through tea bag?  Boundaries. You know you need them to define yourself. You know you need them to draw a line in the sand with a #Hijackal, or any person wanting to roll on over you. You know they can keep you safe. You may […]

Financial Empowerment For Women Considering Divorce…And After Guest: Victoria Lowell

One big consideration women and men have when considering divorce is the real costs of leaving. Financial advocate, Victoria Lowell is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and she offers practical advice for being on the best rack. Too many people–especially, unfortunately, women–feel they are at a disadvantage in seeking a divorce because of financial control. […]

10 Mind-Games Narcissists Play to Confuse & Gaslight You.

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No, you’re not crazy. But, a narcissistic #Hijackal® really wants you to believe you are. Here are ten nasty ways they try to do it! Now, you know. Don’t let them get to you. CRAZY-MAKING! That’s what these ten narcissist mind-games are! #Hijackals–those relentlessly difficult, toxic people in life must always win. You’ve noticed that, […]

Creating a Safe Place for Self-Love GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose


Understanding the meaning and power of self-love, and how to love yourself enough to have the best life possible In today’s episode, Dr. Shaler talks about what the term, “self-love” really means. We hear it spoken of so frequently that we may not think about what it actually means. It’s not about being vain, arrogant, […]