Relationship Help: Co-Existing, Co-Operating or Collaborating?

Co-existing? Co-operating? Collaborating? Which is it generally in your relationship? It’s important to contemplate these distinctions because they make all the difference in the viability and the vitality of your relationship. You can look the words up in a dictionary and you’ll find there is little distinction, but in terms of relationship help, there are […]

Overcoming The Impact Of A Toxic Workplace Relationship

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Not recognizing the impact of a toxic relationship in the workplace can cost you moving forward. It can have a big effect on your self-confidence because it affects how you think about and see yourself. Hear this story and learn from Michele’s experience. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: How even a short time in a toxic workplace can […]

Steps to Stopping Verbal Violence in Your Work Life

People in your work life, working for someone else, or in your own business, can resort to verbal violence to try to capture control! Know how to speak up, set boundaries, and contribute to respectful conversations. Even, if you’re the violator! Verbal Violators in any work situation make working together next to impossible. At a minimum, […]

Is Name-Calling Ever OK?

Hijackals never stop finding fault and demanding control and power

IS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT? You lose it. You’re angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind. You want to win. You want to be heard. You want to be acknowledged. You want to feel validated. So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out […]

What Good Is There In Receiving Criticism From Someone You Hardly Know?

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Have you ever experienced receiving criticism from someone you hardly knew–and, who hardly knew you?  It’s a strange situation, isn’t it? I think so. I wonder if they think it is a way to build intimacy in a relationship that is barely past the acquaintance stage? Or, is it an attempt to demonstrate their vast awareness […]

You’re Not Me So You Don’t Know What I Think Or Feel.

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Difficult people in your life–especially the relentlessly difficult ones I call Hijackals®–like to tell you what you think, what you feel, or what you should think or feel. That’s covert verbal abuse! Did you know that? Where do they get off doing that? Yet, many people are so used to that behavior that they no […]

Relationship Help: S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased!

Have you ever lived with, or worked with or for, S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased? No matter how much attention, time or effort you give something, it is not good enough. No matter how much you offer, you are discounted for not offering more, or for not offering something different. Relationship problems result. Does it […]

Passive-Aggressive Behavior: Why Do You Tolerate It?

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Passive-aggressive behavior is crazy-making. You know–especially if you’ve been reading this blog for a while–that to end passive-aggressive behavior you need to have strong boundaries. So why do you continue to tolerate passive-aggressive behavior? It takes two to be passive-aggressive you know. A person cannot play that game alone!  So, why do you play?  Do […]

Difficult People At Work Make You Want to Stay Home

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Hijackals®, aka chronically difficult people at work, can create a daily hell when you have to interact with them. How do they show up and what can you do with them? A few weeks ago, my colleague and friend, Robert Imbriale, invited me to talk about my term, Hijackals–those chronically difficult people at work–on his […]

Boomerang of Blame: Why Difficult People Make It All Your Fault

I'll tell you what to think.

“It’s crazy-making! No matter how wrong s/he is, it’s always my fault. I’m to blame!” That’s what I hear from so many clients: everything is always their fault. That’s because they are in relationships with chronically difficult people, aka Hijackals®  (scroll down for a quick video: My partner is constantly blaming me!) There’s a reason: […]