Don’t Hijackals love to stir the pot and keep it swirling? They definitely have goals in mind and one is to keep you spinning and the relationship unstable. You want that to stop. Get insights into stopping the spinning and instability in this episode. When a Hijackal wants power over you–and they all do, one […]


Fawning can be thought of as a step further than people-pleasing. SO, you really need to know about it. Until you become conscious of it, you may be doing it. To get your life back, and to be emerging empowered, you want to recognize it, take charge of it, and garner new insights and skills. […]


How Knowing These Helps You Make Health-Affirming Decisions You likely give people the benefit of the doubt, or are willing to go the extra mile for them. That’s healthy and usually reciprocal. Great! BUT, when you’re with someone with narcissistic behaviors, it’s not healthy or reciprocal. It’s unhealthy and one-sided. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 4 […]


relationship help for couples and co-workers

Ugh! The narcissistic Hijackal falls silent, ignores you, and won’t respond. What’s up with that? What are they hoping to achieve? What’s your internal dialogue? What ways are most effective to respond? That’s today’s episode. So dismissive! Hijackals can treat you as though you’re invisible, erased, and definitely not present. They want to impress upon […]

10 Childhood Traumas You Need to Recognize & Recover From

childhood trauma

Did you have a toxic home life, or something that happened to you at a young age? Any of these 10 things we’re discussing could seriously affect your adult life. Ever wonder why you give difficult or toxic people too many chances? Ever wonder why you make a plan to leave, execute it, and end […]

Feeling Stuck & Second-Guessing Yourself?

second-guessing yourself

3 Good Questions I’m Often Asked That Show The Trauma Bonds Causing you to start second-guessing yourself is an unwritten directive of an emotionally abusive, narcissistic person. When that happens, they know they have staked their claim in your psyche and that you will have a harder time maintaining your boundaries and sense of self. […]

Future Faking

episode topic is future faking - the ways narcissists keep you hooked by promising futures you'll never have

One phony way narcissistic people keep you hooked. All those promises! All those dreams! Was it future faking? That’s a very common way that #Hijackals keep you engaged in the relationship. Learn how it works…and, what really doesn’t work about it. You need to see this clearly, or you’ll be hooked on hope! All you […]

7 Unhealthy Patterns You Learn Growing Up in a Narcissistic Family

did you grow up in a narcissistic family? photo of child hiding behind door

You may not even know you picked up all this from narcissistic family dynamics in your life. When you hear these things, you may find the key to unlocking relationship difficulties you’ve had in your adult life. Definitely worth listening to! Is your narcissistic family past negatively affecting your adult relationships now? We take SO […]

Relationship Help: Co-Existing, Co-Operating or Collaborating?

Co-existing? Co-operating? Collaborating? Which is it generally in your relationship? It’s important to contemplate these distinctions because they make all the difference in the viability and the vitality of your relationship. You can look the words up in a dictionary and you’ll find there is little distinction, but in terms of relationship help, there are […]

How to Finally Believe A Hijackal Doesn’t Love You

16 Clear Ways They Show They Don’t! You want to believe that a Hijackal–a toxic, difficult, perhaps narcissistic person–loves you. You SO want to believe it. They don’t have much love to give and here are 16 ways to recognize that they aren’t giving it to you. An eye-opener! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: The transactional […]