How Narcissistic Parents Damage Their Children

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Learn about the effects the “upside down parenting” of narcissists and other Hijackals can have on your adult life and relationships. Great insights to help you make positive changes, and life easier. First, though, you have to see it clearly to understand what really happened to you. Listen in to further understand the impact having […]

RECOGNIZING THE MANIPULATION OF TRIANGULATION

Clearly see how narcissistic people try to control information flow by going through other people, their desired “flying monkeys.” Are there other people in your relationship with the Hijackal who are being approached by the Hijackal to serve their purposes? Do they engage them? Learn how to think about all that! SO important to recognize […]

HIJACKALS ARE BOUNDARY BULLDOZERS

Setting Boundaries. Calibrating Results. Making Decisions. No matter what the Hijackal thinks they are entitled to you need to set, express, and hold boundaries. In this episode, I’ll give you effective ways to begin, or continue, setting clear boundaries and staying strong. Oh, and, what to do when those Hijackals trample them, too! HIGHLIGHTS OF […]

Repeating The Same Fight? It’s Not About What You Think It’s About!

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Most couples have “that” fight, over and over. It’s the one thing that never gets resolved. The one thing that doesn’t change. One, or both of you, think it should. But nothing changes. Are you repeating the same fight? Know this for sure: the fight is not about what you think it is about!  And, […]

WHY HIJACKALS CREATE CHAOS & CONFUSION

Don’t Hijackals love to stir the pot and keep it swirling? They definitely have goals in mind and one is to keep you spinning and the relationship unstable. You want that to stop. Get insights into stopping the spinning and instability in this episode. When a Hijackal wants power over you–and they all do, one […]

THE FAWNING RESPONSE

Fawning can be thought of as a step further than people-pleasing. SO, you really need to know about it. Until you become conscious of it, you may be doing it. To get your life back, and to be emerging empowered, you want to recognize it, take charge of it, and garner new insights and skills. […]

4 TYPES & 3 DEGREES OF NARCISSISTIC BEHAVIOR

How Knowing These Helps You Make Health-Affirming Decisions You likely give people the benefit of the doubt, or are willing to go the extra mile for them. That’s healthy and usually reciprocal. Great! BUT, when you’re with someone with narcissistic behaviors, it’s not healthy or reciprocal. It’s unhealthy and one-sided. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 4 […]

THE DREADED SILENT TREATMENT

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Ugh! The narcissistic Hijackal falls silent, ignores you, and won’t respond. What’s up with that? What are they hoping to achieve? What’s your internal dialogue? What ways are most effective to respond? That’s today’s episode. So dismissive! Hijackals can treat you as though you’re invisible, erased, and definitely not present. They want to impress upon […]

10 Childhood Traumas You Need to Recognize & Recover From

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Did you have a toxic home life, or something that happened to you at a young age? Any of these 10 things we’re discussing could seriously affect your adult life. Ever wonder why you give difficult or toxic people too many chances? Ever wonder why you make a plan to leave, execute it, and end […]

Feeling Stuck & Second-Guessing Yourself?

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3 Good Questions I’m Often Asked That Show The Trauma Bonds Causing you to start second-guessing yourself is an unwritten directive of an emotionally abusive, narcissistic person. When that happens, they know they have staked their claim in your psyche and that you will have a harder time maintaining your boundaries and sense of self. […]