Six Constantly Flying Red Flags That Should Tip You Off to Hijackals

You’re been in the relationship for a while. Maybe, it’s even your parent! Or, a new partner? Or, you’re waking up to the fact that you simply cannot please your partner because s/he WILL NOT be pleased, no matter what you do!

Your partner may be a #Hijackal®

Your partner may have narcissistic behaviors and self-centered motives.

Your partner may have anti-social behaviors.

Your partner may incapable of empathy, and therefore, incapable of real love.

You need to know these six red flags!


  • Six red flags you see way too often but may be missing
  • Why you need to learn to be strategic in a relationship with a narcissistic person
  • How to get some perspective on what’s really bothering you in a toxic relationship
  • Why you may keep telling yourself “It’s not so bad” and why you need to stop

Don’t worry. Other episodes will definitely help you get out of the Hijackal®Trap, and out of the relationship if that is what you want to do.

These are constantly flying red flags–they are always there when you know what to look for. We’ll discuss how you can look at them differently to see how destructive and damaging they really are to your sense of self – how emotionally abusive they are! Oh, and of course, how they create impossible-to-enjoy relationships, too!

I created the term, Hijackals, to give us a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of difficult people without the necessity of psychological diagnosis.

A diagnosis won’t help you deal with them, but knowing what they are up to will.

Here’s my definition:”Hijackals are people who hijack relationships–for their own purposes–and then scavenge the daily for power, status, and control.” Sound familiar? You need to know if you are with one!


You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive.

A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not. There is no emotional safety when you’re in a relationship with a Hijackal!

Once, you recognize this, you’ll need more information to change that. You’ll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.

Listen to today’s episode, and, if by chance, you’re still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my FREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at . You need to know what’s up now, so you don’t make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!

If you need help with any part of the journey with–and from–a #Hijackal, I’m here for you. Let’s talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.



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