Today’s guest, Christa D, shares her story of life with a Hijackal husband, and divorcing him. Oh, yes, with the added difficulties created by him being an attorney! Be inspired by her story.
This is a special feature of Save Your Sanity. I occasionally talk on Save Your Sanity with people willing to share their stories of life with, and after, a Hijackal. That might be their parent, partner, friend, or co-worker. You can find a Hijackal in every area of life…unfortunately!
Today, Christa shares her story.
Christa was married to a Hijackal for almost twenty years, and had three children. Finally, it became too much and she spent two years fighting for custody.
Oops! Her husband was an attorney. I’ve had several clients in different parts of the world who had #Hijackal attorneys for husbands. So difficult! And, so difficult to divorce, in most cases.
Christa attributes her winning to being able to have the funds and other resources to fight for custody for two years. Many people do not have the emotional and financial resources to do that. Christa was able to. She said:
“The only person involved with our case who saw his side of things was his own attorney. I was granted custody but that, of course, is not the end of the story. He bribed my girls until each one of them decided to live with him. He found ways to turn them against me. He told lies to our neighbors and friends. He even called my mother and brother and told them they really didn’t know me. I want to share my story so others know they can leave and reclaim their lives.”
Thank you, Christa. You’ve outlined several Hijackal Hallmarks:
- alienating the children with bribes
- bad-mouthing the other parent to make the Hijackal look good
- transgressing a basic statement in every divorce decree: not to speak poorly of the other parent to the children
- creating a smear campaign with neighbors, friends and colleagues to sway them to his side and make you look bad
- trying to alienate family members from you, and pretend that they have “special knowledge” of you, or say that you are unwell or unfit
I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I’m here for you.
