Beware of Introjection & Projection!

You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in. Hijackals–people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits–play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and […]


Hijackals & other narcissistic people have neither thought nor intention of leveling any playing field. No, it’s about the all important winning. Why? What can you do or say? Use the ideas in this episode to step back from the crazy-making!  When you’re in a relationship with a relatively healthy person, you work things out. […]

How All-Or-Nothing Thinking Creates and Comes From Fear

Everything is a potential deal breaker when all-or-nothing thinking prevails! People who were raised in emotional abusive homes learn to think that way. If you are with one, you may be on the receiving end and need to understand and name it. You need to be able to do that. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S EPISODE: How […]

MEN: How to Revive a Dormant Sex Life After You’ve Killed the Connection

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Author of The Masculine in Relationships joins me to talk about male/female differences in relationships, and what’s toxic. Men, would you like to know what to say when your female partner is really angry? The answer–and many more–are in this episode with GS Youngblood, author of The Masculine in Relationship. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: When […]

Do you ever think ‘I’m Feeling Taken For Granted In My Relationship?”

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Feeling taken for granted is an underlying relationship problem that can pop up regularly. It wears many disguises in a relationship. When your partner finds ways to justify behavior that leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported, it’s likely that you will start feeling taken for granted. S/he just expects that you will somehow understand […]

Setting Boundaries That are Clear & Well-Expressed?

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Ever feel used, abused and confused?  It may be that you are suffering from “Boundaryitis”.  You’re frustrated because people walk all over you. You have nothing to keep you safe. That’s what setting boundaries is all about. Boundaries are fundamentally important to creating healthy relationships. They are essential in relationships with people you love, or […]

How to Deal With Passive Aggressive People

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If you have a person in your life who confuses you regularly with their consistently inconsistent behavior, you may be in relationship with a passive-aggressive person. That can be crazy-making. This post will help you respond in healthy ways…and help you keep your sanity!

Tips for Divorcing a Hijackal® When Children are Involved – Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

When you considering divorcing a toxic person, or when you ARE divorcing a #Hijackal, and you have children, there are many considerations that might be more important than in other divorces. #Hijackals MUST win. They don’t really want the children as much as they want to have control over whether or not YOU have them. […]

Formula For Having Those Essential Tough Conversations

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Do you put off speaking up because you’re afraid the conversation will go sideways…and not in your favor? Any chance you try to keep the peace rather than resolve big issues? David Hill’s formula for touch conversations will definitely help! Are you shying away from a tough conversation that you know is important? Would clearing […]

3 MUST-HAVES For Relationships Between Adults To Be Healthy

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Relationships cannot be healthy without these three foundational pieces, and it certainly won’t be happy. Whether it’s a relationship with a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child, measure it against these. If it doesn’t measure up, fix it or end it! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: The three essentials to having a healthy relationship with another […]