Seven rights?  YES! And, you may not have claimed them. That's great news for you.

Even if your parents and other adults didn't or couldn't give them to you while you were growing up, you can systematically reclaim them now. You'll need a little help, but you can do it. And, the pay-off is, that your life and relationships will transform when you do this work.

From before your birth until you left home, your parents, family, and other important adults in your life were in charge of giving you seven inalienable rights. They may not have had them to give to you because of their own personal stories. Now, it's up to you.

GOOD NEWS: You can reclaim them.

These seven rights* sound so straightforward and simple when you read them. You want to say "Yes, of course." BUT, they are--or, more importantly, are not--deeply ingrained in who you are. If you do not have them, you cannot operate from them. Without them, you can suffer from a lack of self-love, self-respect, or self-esteem that you.  And, you may miss out on much of the joy, success, love, and significance in your life. Don't let that happen. I'll help you reclaim them, and get back on track to the best life possible.

Embracing all seven rights and working them through to make them part of who you are in the healthiest way possible will change your life. If any are missing, you're not going to have the life or relationships you most want. You will actually feel--and have likely felt for a long time--that some very important part of you was missing, lacking, or overly excessive. That's natural. You didn't know what you didn't know. Now, change that.


  • the right to be here
  • the right to feel
  • the right to act
  • the right to love
  • the right to speak
  • the right to see
  • the right to know

If, during your early years, you had too much or too little validation for these, it could be affecting your life in negative ways. And, for sure, it can create big relationship issues, too.

Just think, if you--in your heart of hearts--don't feel that you have the right to be here, to take up space and breathe, it is very difficult to ask for what you need and want in a relationship.

Deep down, If you don't think that you have the right to act to get what you need and want, that can lead to behaving passively, passive-aggressively, or resentfully. You see how important these rights are, then.

I hope you'll really think about these seven rights, and begin to recognize where you could benefit from reclaiming them in your life right now.

Following the free introductory webinar, you will have the opportunity to join in a seven-week online live program with me to reclaim, re-capture, and re-ignite those rights in healthy way. Life-changing, for sure.

Make you a priority by making this a priority! It is fundamental to the relationship you have with yourself and every other single person in your life at home, at work, and in the community. Really! Life-changing! 

Let's talk soon.

I wish you well.
Dr. Shaler

If you have a #Hijackal in your life, or think you might have, get my free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, at Hijackals.com  Need help to know your next best steps?  If you would like more help, subscribe to my Tips for Relationships, and listen to my Podcasts. Start with an introductory session. Talk soon!

* These seven rights are from the work of Anodea Judith

Disclaimer: All advice, insights and suggestions made here are not to be construed as psychological or legal advice. Any actions you undertake as a result of reading any article, book, video, ebook or blog post from Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, are entirely your own. Having worked with individuals and couples for more than twenty-five years, she offers her insights and opinions for your consideration only.


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