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I’ve just returned from a very insightful trip to Canada. I find that when I leave my office, my writing, my dog and daily life behind, whole new vistas open and new perspectives emerge. It was wonderful connecting with so many friends and family, as well as meeting a few lovely new folks, too.. As I had conversations with almost fifty folks on this excursion, I found new ideas percolating and new expressions arising.

So, that is what has spawned this idea of choice among being reactive, responsive or generative in any moment, circumstance, condition or relationship. I’m interested in your thoughts, so, here are mine for the moment:

Reactive = You yell at me. I yell back, justifying my behavior because you started it.

Responsive = You yell at me. I decide to yell, discuss or demure in response to your yelling. Depending on the day, situation and relationship, each of those was a potential response. My behavior arises from choice in the moment.

Generative = You yell at me. I am clear that yelling is not in alignment with my values, vision, beliefs or purpose. I have made a conscious choice about who I am and how that is expressed, no matter what the circumstance, conditions, relationship or situation. I am generative from who I am, who I choose to be all the time. This demonstrates my understanding of “the truth is what you do” that we talk about in our book, Soul Solitude: Taking Time for Our Souls to Catch Up.

Being an emotional grown-up requires a generative approach to the moment….IMNTHO! lol

I hope you’ll add your thoughts below.

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  1. Lanedancer -

    I think your definition of “Responsive” belongs with “React”. I think there is an ocean between the two. When I respond, as opposed to react, I take in and respond from where I receive. If my response feels like it’s reactive, then I would move to “generative” and do a check as to where my reaction is coming from.

    Thanks for the thought provoker!

  2. DrShaler -

    And, thank you for your input.

    I have a question for you: if there is “an ocean between the two”, how can they belong together? Could you please say more about this to help me understand your thoughts further?

  3. Amy -

    And, thank you for your input.

    I have a question for you: if there is “an ocean between the two”, how can they belong together? Could you please say more about this to help me understand your thoughts further?

  4. DrShaler -

    Please do not use my blog to blatantly advertise your products. Blog etiquette requires that you respond to or engage in the specific topic of the blog entry and keep your advertising to your signature file alone.

    As I am a certified Sivananda yoga teacher, I would be interested in your comments.

    Thanks.
    Rhoberta

    Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
    Founder of Sow Peace & SpiritualLivingNetwork.com

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