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Tag Archives: verbal abuse

drama in my relationship

You’re Not Me So You Don’t Know What I Think Or Feel.

Difficult people in your life–especially the relentlessly difficult ones I call Hijackals®–like to tell you what you think, what you feel, or what you should think or feel. That’s covert verbal abuse! Did you know that? Where do they get off doing that? Yet, many people are so used to that behavior that they no…

Optimize Circles

I’d love to welcome you to my Optimize Circles. I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and I’ve created a safe place of support for you, away from Facebook, so you can feel secure. Share your journey. Ask your questions. Learn, grow, and heal. In your life journey, you’ve likely met one or two of Read More > >

Passive-Aggressive Behavior: Why Do You Tolerate It?

Passive-aggressive behavior is crazy-making. You know–especially if you’ve been reading this blog for a while–that to end passive-aggressive behavior you need to have strong boundaries. So why do you continue to tolerate passive-aggressive behavior? It takes two to be passive-aggressive you know. A person cannot play that game alone!  So, why do you play?  Do…

verbal abuse and emotional abuse when angry

Being Verbally Abused May Be Something You’ve Gone “Nose-Blind” To!

Are you being verbally abused? It’s there. It’s always in the air. It could strike or rebound at any time. Have you gone nose-blind to it? “Nose-blind” is a phrase from a TV ad for air-freshener. The reason you’ve gone “nose-blind” to the awful smells in your house or car is because you have grown…

Verbal Abuse And How To Stop It

Are you experiencing verbal abuse? Are you allowing yourself to call it what it is? Or, do you make excuses for it, justify it? When you call your partner on it, does s/he say you’re too sensitive? Do you really believe that? You don’t set out to be in a difficult relationship, but, you’re often Read More > >

Hijackals never stop finding fault and demanding control and power

Anger & Aggression Ruin Relationships. Think About This.

When there is anger and aggression, do the wise thing: look inward first. Why start with you? Because you can’t change others! Be wise. Start with yourself. Anger and aggression? Other people can be crazy-making. No doubt! And, they can be scary: demeaning, belittling, demanding, threatening. All those things are aggressive. And, you so want…

3 Signs You’re With A Relentlessly Difficult Person

You need relationship help if you recognize what’s driving you crazy in your relationship in today’s post. It means you are with a special breed: the relentlessly difficult person. Sometimes, you just want to throw your arms in the air and scream, “Uncle! Enough already!” Right? You say “white.” He says “black,” even when it’s…

Get relationship help now for yourself if you suspect you are living with, or divorced from a high conflict person.

Manage Anger Or It Will Manage You!

When people come to me for anger management coaching and classes, they often say: “I don’t like who I am when I let my anger fly!”  They are disappointed, embarrassed, humiliated, and/or, having to mop up a big spill of emotions that didn’t need to happen. You might say, “Yes, it did! I just couldn’t stand…

Passive Aggressive Relationships – When Is It Abuse?

Passive Aggressive Abuse in Relationships Leaving you shaking your head in disbelief, it’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are dead ends with no escape. You may even be dealing with a Hijackal®! It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! It requires relationship help! It’s covert, stealthy even! You’re…

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