Tag Archives: Anger Management

Hijackals never stop finding fault and demanding control and power

Is Name-Calling Ever OK?

IS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT? You lose it. You’re angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind. You want to win. You want to be heard. You want to be acknowledged. You want to feel validated. So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out…

3 Immediate Ways to Empower Yourself When Someone is Angry

When someone is angry–especially when you are faced with an angry, relentlessly difficult person–always remember that the angrier they are, the more brain-dead they are. (Well, not really brain-dead, but when someone is angry, s/he is incapable of thinking straight, that’s for sure.) It’s a simple matter of body chemistry and physiology. The angrier you…

Keeping Your Cool When Hijackals™ Don’t!

Hijackals®–those relentlessly difficult people in your life–like to think they have power over you. They practice that–in fact, check that–by trying to make you lose your cool. It’s that simple! I’m going to help you with these steps for keeping  your cool around them. Usually, you are on guard for the next irritation when you’re…

Hijackals never stop finding fault and demanding control and power

Anger & Aggression Ruin Relationships. Think About This.

When there is anger and aggression, do the wise thing: look inward first. Why start with you? Because you can’t change others! Be wise. Start with yourself. Anger and aggression? Other people can be crazy-making. No doubt! And, they can be scary: demeaning, belittling, demanding, threatening. All those things are aggressive. And, you so want…

Rhoberta Shaler anger quote blurt you hurt

Speaking When You’re Angry Costs Too Much. Do This Instead.

You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where do I want to be…

Get relationship help now for yourself if you suspect you are living with, or divorced from a high conflict person.

Manage Anger Or It Will Manage You!

When people come to me for anger management coaching and classes, they often say: “I don’t like who I am when I let my anger fly!”  They are disappointed, embarrassed, humiliated, and/or, having to mop up a big spill of emotions that didn’t need to happen. You might say, “Yes, it did! I just couldn’t stand…

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How To Handle Anger In Others And Yourself

Can you handle anger if you don’t know where it is coming from? Sarcasm, potshots and offhand comments made to you while others are present so that you cannot respond. Sound familiar? If you recognize that you use sneaky anger or you are on the receiving end of sneaky anger, then you will benefit from…

Relationship Help: Don’t Be a Doormat!!!

Whether you are a man or a woman doesn’t matter, but it certainly matters if you are a doormat! A doormat is a person who doesn’t take a stand in life for his or her values, vision, purpose, beliefs, desires or worth. They are more interested in keeping the peace, or living up to the…

Relationship Help: Can the apple travel far from the tree? Yes!

Working with some wonderful men here in my Anger Management classes, I’m so encouraged to see that even though apples don’t fall far from trees, they can get up and crawl far away. And, being their travel guide warms my heart! Whatever our parents showed us by their lifestyle, or told us by their words…

Relationship Help: Rage. You don’t have to live with it.

Rage! That’s different from simple anger. It is another class of upheaval.  Rage is defined as “violent and uncontrolled anger.”  A whole other class.  And, no one needs to live with it, neither the Rager nor the recipient. The operant difference between anger and rage is the violence and the lack of control.  We all…