Can Narcissists Change? Like, Actually Make Lasting Changes to Stop the Abuse?

Can Narcissists Change? Listen to this podcast episode to find out

Psychiatrist, Dr. Laura Dabney, answers that HUGE question that keeps you hooked on hope: Can Narcissists Change? You want to know if there’s hope the emotional abuse will stop. Listen in! You hope, hope, hope. Can narcissists change? Can YOUR narcissist change? WILL your narcissistic person change? You buy into their promises to change. And, […]

How to Handle the Emotional Abuse of Microaggressions Using the PWR Response

microaggressions - tiny little things that add up to big emotional abuse

Those underhanded, often brief, microaggressions that narcissistic Hijackals and other toxic people use for control need to be recognized. Then, you need to know what to do about them. The small, subtle, often sneaky words, actions, and gestures that are small or brief slights, insults, insinuations, or put downs used to marginalize you are microaggressions. […]


How It Erodes Your Self-Worth and Self-Confidence Sneaky stuff this emotional brainwashing! It often starts slowly and seems understandable. But, it continues and tips you over into second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity, right? And, down the slippery slope! Listen in to uncover what may be happening–or has happened–to you. Great start! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY’S […]

How the Strong Pull of Trauma-Bonding Creates Addiction to a Toxic Relationship

couple after incident, what trauma-bonding looks like

You may call it “love” but, in a toxic relationship, it may sadly be that you succumbed to the addictive nature of trauma-bonding. You need to know for sure so that you can make wise decisions for your–and your children’s–health and well-being. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: The definition of trauma-bonding Understanding the addictive nature of […]

Recognizing The Impact of Shame in Toxic Relationships

the shame in toxic relationships with beverly engel & dr rhoberta shaler

You might never have thought about the possible elements of shame in toxic relationships. This is something that likely both you and the #Hijackal are experiencing. No, there’s no excuse for the abuse, but this episode will help you understand a deep dynamic in these relationships. Important to know! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Differences between […]

EMOTIONAL ABUSE: The High Cost of Enabling a Narcissistic Hijackal

you can break the habit of enabling a narcissist

There can be significant and damaging results to enabling a narcissist that you don’t want to stay blind to. You think you’re doing your best, giving your all, compromising, and cooperating. And in a healthy relationship, that’s great. In a toxic relationship, you’ll be expected to over-give and more. It’s a setup for emotional abuse. […]

Have You Been Verbally Abused?

been verbally abused? it often starts in childhood and you become an adult without noticing it.

Verbal abuse is far more common than anyone would like to think. Have you been verbally abused? If we come from a history of harsh parents, or strict teachers… where we were in position of subordination, it’s entirely possible we don’t even recognize what verbal abuse sounds like. Have you been spoken to strongly? Or… […]

How Being Afraid To Call It Abuse Can Keep You Stuck In It

Nice people often go the extra mile to excuse abusive behaviors in toxic relationships. Dangerous! We all can have a bad moment, or even a bad day. BUT, do you rationalize, justify, and make excuses for the consistently bad behavior of someone towards you? That’s a problem. No matter who it is in your life–parent, […]

How Living With Or Being Raised By A Narcissist Actually Traumatizes You

learn how to deal with passive aggressive people

If you downplay the trauma, you won’t take steps to recover. That would be a shame. Never underestimate the effect of having a narcissistic parent or partner! Resist the urge to downplay the verbal and emotional abuse. You’re not supposed to be abused…by anyone!!! Today, I’m sharing some ways to recognize your own trauma, so […]

Are Your Boundaries Secure, Or Too Porous To Keep You Safe?


Are your boundaries secure or about as porous as a flow-through tea bag?  Boundaries. You know you need them to define yourself. You know you need them to draw a line in the sand with a #Hijackal, or any person wanting to roll on over you. You know they can keep you safe. You may […]