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Relationship Help: S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased!

Have you ever lived with, or worked with or for, S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased? No matter how much attention, time or effort you give something, it is not good enough. No matter how much you offer, you are discounted for not offering more, or for not offering something different. Relationship problems result. Does it…

Relationship Help: Angry? Who, Me?

Anger is truly a hot topic! Not just from the point of view of the pun, but because those who have anger issues don’t want to talk about them–too hot to touch–and those who keep their anger to themselves don’t want to talk about it–too hot to handle. What do you do with yours? In…

Relationship Help: Can you keep your mouth shut AND the door open?

There are times–often, many times–when we are just bursting to speak. We want to tell folks what we think, why we think it, why our opinion/advice/insight has merit, and what they should be doing/thinking/feeling/considering.  Does that about cover it? Yes, I think so, but what really needs to be covered is our mouths! Yep! It’s…

Relationship Help: Does being right make it right?

Oh, we all like to be right, don’t we? Even if we keep the smug “I told you so” to ourselves, we like being right. We need relationship help for sure when things deteriorate in your relationship to just wanting to be right. In a recent Relationship Insights class, this came up when a participant…

Relationship Help: Anger + Texting = Trouble!

Oh, the flying fingers that seal our fates! Relationships can be enriched by the loving text messages that let others know we care. But, let those fingers fly when you are angry and you’ve done something that may never go away.  Not only that, text messages are now fodder for court cases.  Think of this…

Relationships: 4 Vital Connections to Reduce Holiday Stress Now

Holiday time.  Time for seeing friends and relatives, creating traditions, celebrating together. Time for taking time to connect.  Time for family relationships and traditions. Time that sometimes seems a little scarce  throughout the rest of the year. Sounds great!  But, a small problem. Somehow, during the holidays, time becomes even scarcer! Instead of slowing down and…

Relationship Help: Got boundaries? Or, faultfinding down to an art?

Some people have been carefully trained to be faultfinders. They look for the problems, the inadequacies, the not-quite-good-enoughs, and the less-than-perfects…and pounce! Fault is often the first thing out of their mouths. You might know one or two such folks.  Maybe, you’re related to one? Or, married to one?  Or, do you have faultfinding down…

Relationship Help: It Takes a Little Willingness!

I got a call from a potential client the other day. She definitely was looking for relationship help. She has a daughter who is in her twenties with a small child. No baby daddy on the scene. The issue is that the mother says the daughter is always angry with her and she wants to…

An insightful idea that helps in resolving relationship problems

This morning I read a quote that caused me to write this post: “People are anxious to improve their circumstances, but unwilling to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound.”  ~ James Allen Working with clients and students each day as I do, I know this is true. People want things to change but want the…

tips for communicating with a contrarian

Tips For Communicating With A Contrarian

If you have a contrarian–a person who always says black when you say white and has no interest in moving towards gray–that you have to work with, or happens to be a family member, these tips can help you. Contrarians seem to take great joy in the “gotcha.” Get insights into improving the relationship here.