No Empathy = No Intimacy!

SO, You’ll Have No Safety.

You look for signs that someone cares. You long for signs they love you, right? So any little glimmer seems hopeful. Yet, you feel alone, demeaned, dismissed, and ignored in so many ways. That’s a problem!


  • Why empathy is important to intimacy
  • Why you’re not safe when there is no empathy
  • Why you must notice how you make excuses for the lack of empathy in others
  • How the desire for closeness with a person is healthy…and, what makes it not.

In this episode, you’ll learn more about why you cannot find the emotional intimacy you crave with an empathy-deficient person, a Hijackal who is narcissistic.. And, what you need to know to make good decisions about it, too. p.s. ALL Hijackals are narcissistic!

Hijackal® is my term for people who hijack a relationship for their own needs and purposes, and then relentlessly scavenge that relationship for power, status, and control. Got one in your life? A parent? Partner? Sibling? Adult Child? In-Law? Hijackals feel the need to take as much as they can from you, while giving you as little as is possible to get away with. Familiar? Listen in.


I’m here to help. Let’s talk soon.



Here are some other episodes that cover the concepts of empathy deficiency, intimacy, and emotional unavailability:

Who Cares? Not Hijackals! They’re Empathy Deficient.

Dealing with EMPATHY-DEFICIENT People

Recognize These 11 Traits of Emotional Immaturity

The Scam, Sham & Spam of Pseudomutuality





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