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This behaviour is making me crazy

What to Do with a Bully at Work

You went to work for this company and you were so excited. Just days later, it started.  The bully at work started showing her colors, defining her territory and stomping the ground! Help! I thought it was going to be so good. What do I do? We expect bullies on a school playground or to…

Relationship Help: Are You Getting Diatribes When You’re Wanting Dialogues?

Sometimes, we’re afraid to open up conversations about troubling issues for fear it will only make matters worse. We’re afraid that we’ll be met with a diatribe and there will be no dialogue. Sound familiar? What’s a diatribe? Well, that’s when someone holds forth and seldom takes a breath while giving you all the reasons,…

Relationship Help: Could You Have Unmanaged or Mismanaged Emotions?

We usually think that we are quite rational and justified in expressing our emotions. Some of us hold forth about them at length, given the opportunity. The big question: Are your emotions in proportion to the situations, relationships, and circumstances you’re responding to? Is it possible that you have some unmanaged or mismanaged emotions? Maybe…

Relationship Help: Are You Behaving in Passive-Aggressive Ways?

How do you know if you are passive-aggressive? Aside from the obvious wake of people who won’t get close to you, there are certain things to think about to determine if your behavior is passive-aggressive. GOOD NEWS: People are not passive-aggressive by nature.  It’s their communication and conflict management patterns that ar, and these are…

For Relationship Help: Put an End to Blaming!

If you’re always looking for someone to blame or blaming someone else for where you find yourself in life, you will never have close or satisfying relationships. It’s that simple! In your love relationship, you may stay together but you won’t be emotionally intimate. You’ll both be settling for far less than you could have…

Relationship Help: Angry? Who, Me?

Anger is truly a hot topic! Not just from the point of view of the pun, but because those who have anger issues don’t want to talk about them–too hot to touch–and those who keep their anger to themselves don’t want to talk about it–too hot to handle. What do you do with yours? In…

Relationship Help: Workplace conflicts? Oh, that person in the next cubicle !@&*#*)!!

Relationship help extends to the workplace where we can find ourselves thrust together with other folks we may or may not like, respect or appreciate. Hopefully, you are in the perfect place with the perfect people, but, just in case you’re not, I’m going to share a few thoughts about managing workplace conflicts with tips…

Relationship Help: Do You Have a Crazy-Making Partner or Co-Worker?

Do you have a partner, boss or co-worker who you would often–operant word, often–describe as crazy-making?  Does s/he frequently seem to give with one hand and grab it back with the other? This can be a description of the emotional and verbal behavior of a passive-aggressive person. My friend, Brenda, was telling me about her…

How bringing your family to work can really drag you down.

In my seminars on Wrestling Rhinos: Conquering Conflict in the Wilds of Work…and Everywhere Else! I ask the audience how many folks came from a home where no one spoke up when they were upset or hurting, the “Do not say boo to a goose” families.  Those are the homes of the “Silent Ones.” Then,…

Good boundaries make good neighbours

Clear boundaries are a keystone to any successful relationship – at home, at work or at play. Knowing what you’re comfortable with, what your non-negotiables are, and how far you’re prepared to compromise will help you and the person you’re relating to know where things stand and how to communicate accordingly.