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What Songs Have Shaped Your Thinking? by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD at Sow Peace

Relationships: What Songs Shaped Your Thinking?

The beginning of the new year is a great time to be reflecting on your relationship with yourself.  It’s a good time for making positive changes. One New Year’s Day, I was painting my front door. While painting I chose to listen to an old CD, a mix that I was given of songs that have…

Relationship Help: When the wedding daze is over and real life begins…

Out on the playground, or in the sandbox, little children stamp their feet and say, “Me. Me. I want it my way!!!” Often, in relationships we find big kids–we call them adults because they got bigger–metaphorically stamping their feet and saying the same thing. I am particularly struck by this when I work with young…

Relationship Help: Is anyone listening???

There is a good reason that we have one mouth and two ears. The body seems to be telling us that listening twice as much as talking is a good idea. Now, sure, I’m making that up, but it is a very wise conclusion just the same. Even if folks listened as much as they…

Relationship Help: Can relationship problems be solved quickly?

Recently, I was working with a couple who were with me for the second counseling session. At the end, the fellow said: “How long is this going to take to know if this relationship can get better?” Big question with no answer. But, what it did highlight that I thought I’d share with you today…

Relationship Help: I say “Potatoes” & S/he says “Petahtuhs!”

Do you think you might need relationship help because your partner sometimes seems like  an alien? Does it seem that the person with whom you are trying to communicate is from a different planet, or speaks an entirely foreign language to you? Well, I don’t know about the planet part, the language difference can be…

Relationship Problems: Make This the Holiday Season You Want it to Be!

Relationship problems and the holidays? It happens. Oh, we so hope everyone will be different when we visit them this holiday season…especially the difficult, fearful and judgmental ones! In fits of wishful thinking, we hope that any growth we have achieved during the past year will have, by osmosis, been passed along to them.  They…

Need Relationship Help? Take a moment for this!

Sometimes we are so mired down in the details of our lives that we forget to lift our heads and see the bigger picture. Today, I just wanted to give you something to warm your heart and lift your spirit…as well as your head. For there to be peace in our relationships, in our life…

Relationship Help: Rage. You don’t have to live with it.

Rage! That’s different from simple anger. It is another class of upheaval.  Rage is defined as “violent and uncontrolled anger.”  A whole other class.  And, no one needs to live with it, neither the Rager nor the recipient. The operant difference between anger and rage is the violence and the lack of control.  We all…

Relationship Problems: Other People’s Expectations

There is no way that everyone we meet is going to be someone we like, or someone who likes us.  Nor is it going to be that everyone interests us, thinks like us or processes information the way we do. There’s not a problem…unless you think life is a popularity contest!  I hope you’re more…

Relationship Problems: Does Mediation Work?

If you have not used mediation as a resolution strategy for relationship problems, this post will help you understand the differences between mediation and counseling so that you can make a wise choice. When you choose to go to a mediator–whether for a relationship problem at home or at work, you are saying ” THIS MATTERS!”