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Hijackal parents are difficult people, disturbed people

5 Sad, Underlying Beliefs You May Have If You Were Raised By A Difficult Parent

If you were raised by a Hijackal®* parent, deep down, you know you’re not fine. You say you are, but you’re not. Maybe, you can’t even put your finger on how you know you’re not. I want to help with that. You may not have all five of these deep-down beliefs about yourself, but I…

those red flags I didn't see

Those Red Flags! Why Didn’t I See Them Sooner?

Hindsight is excellent. You know that. One of the hardest things to see when you’re falling in love is those red flags. You want to fall in love. It’s wonderful. It’s magical. Nothing should get in its way. Not even a Hijackal™*! Those red flags may not have been waving wildly, just quietly and occasionally.…

Relationship Help Podcasts

We have great podcasts to help you create the healthiest life and relationships you’ve ever experienced…the ones you long for, where you are seen, heard, known, acknowledged, accepted, and appreciated! Is your relationship in crisis? Do you wish you had more confidence? Are you tired of constant Drama? Do you feel comfortable to speak up Read More > >

all your fault what's happening.

If Your Partner Says “It’s All Your Fault,” it’s likely not. Here’s why.

“It’s all your fault!” No matter what is happening you hear “It’s all your fault.” Even, if you weren’t there, it’s somehow all your fault. Maybe, it is. Maybe, you are absolutely incompetent, incapable, and unworthy in every way. But, it’s not likely all your fault. For one thing, you would never have opened this…

verbal abuse and emotional abuse when angry

Being Verbally Abused May Be Something You’ve Gone “Nose-Blind” To!

Are you being verbally abused? It’s there. It’s always in the air. It could strike or rebound at any time. Have you gone nose-blind to it? “Nose-blind” is a phrase from a TV ad for air-freshener. The reason you’ve gone “nose-blind” to the awful smells in your house or car is because you have grown…

Keeping Your Cool When Hijackals™ Don’t!

Hijackals™–those relentlessly difficult people in your life–like to think they have power over you. They practice that–in fact, check that–by trying to make you lose your cool. It’s that simple! I’m going to help you with these steps for keeping  your cool around them. Usually, you are on guard for the next irritation when you’re…

coparenting with a hijackal - parents arguing in front of kids

Your Children Watch You. What Are They Learning?

Children watch. From the moment they are born, they watch…and, they are watching you.  Right from birth, your children watch. They are being imprinted with all that they take in through their senses, through what they see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. They have no language but they hear the tone of your voice. They…

Crazy-Making? Verbal Abuse? Emotional Abuse? The Right Place For Relationship Help!

I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I want to help you to stop the seemingly endless cycle of conflicts, miscommunications, crazy-making habits, alienation, and constant drama. You’re in the right place for relationship help. Not therapy. Not counseling. Straight-up consulting with effective insights, strategies and skills to help your relationships! If you have a relentlessly difficult partner, ex, Read More > >

Rhoberta Shaler anger quote blurt you hurt

Speaking When You’re Angry Costs Too Much. Do This Instead.

You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where do I want to be…

chronically difficult partner, difficult people, difficult person, chronically difficult person, Hijackal

Difficult Partner ? Or, Chronically Difficult? Big difference!

There is a BIG difference between a momentarily difficult partner and a chronically difficult partner. Difficult people have bad days, weeks, or moments that are related to stress and life events. Sometimes, a bad mood or temporary hormone imbalance makes that difference. A chronically difficult partner, though, is often–if not always–difficult. You walk on eggshells…