If you were raised by a Hijackal®* parent, deep down, you know you’re not fine. You say you are, but you’re not. Maybe, you can’t even put your finger on how you know you’re not. I want to help with that. You may not have all five of these deep-down beliefs about yourself, but I…
Hindsight is excellent. You know that. One of the hardest things to see when you’re falling in love is those red flags. You want to fall in love. It’s wonderful. It’s magical. Nothing should get in its way. Not even a Hijackal™*! Those red flags may not have been waving wildly, just quietly and occasionally.…
Looking for help to create the healthiest life and relationships you’ve ever experienced? The relationships you long for, where you are seen, heard, known, acknowledged, accepted, and appreciated? Regular new episodes with me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, and a carefully chosen expert guest. You’ll get excellent information, insights, and strategies for clearly seeing what is going Read More > >
Welcome to The Focus on Forward Forum. I’d love for you to join us. This is a safe place of support, a place to share your journey, ask your questions, learn, grow, and heal together. I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. I’m so glad you’re here. You likely know that I help the partners, exes, Read More > >
“It’s all your fault!” No matter what is happening you hear “It’s all your fault.” Even, if you weren’t there, it’s somehow all your fault. Maybe, it is. Maybe, you are absolutely incompetent, incapable, and unworthy in every way. But, it’s not likely all your fault. For one thing, you would never have opened this…
Are you being verbally abused? It’s there. It’s always in the air. It could strike or rebound at any time. Have you gone nose-blind to it? “Nose-blind” is a phrase from a TV ad for air-freshener. The reason you’ve gone “nose-blind” to the awful smells in your house or car is because you have grown…
Hijackals®–those relentlessly difficult people in your life–like to think they have power over you. They practice that–in fact, check that–by trying to make you lose your cool. It’s that simple! I’m going to help you with these steps for keeping your cool around them. Usually, you are on guard for the next irritation when you’re…
Children watch. From the moment they are born, they watch…and, they are watching you. Right from birth, your children watch. They are being imprinted with all that they take in through their senses, through what they see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. They have no language but they hear the tone of your voice. They…
I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I want to help you to stop the seemingly endless cycle of conflicts, miscommunications, crazy-making habits, alienation, and constant drama. You’re in the right place for relationship help. “The help and information you share makes me feel I can breathe again. I am not alone in this. Thank you.” “Thank you, Read More > >
You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where do I want to be…
