Join me live every week on BBS Radio! Is your relationship in crisis? Are you tired of constant Drama? Too much Crazing-Making Conflict? Need help dealing with Relentlessly Difficult People? I’ll bring you new perspectives to create healthy, “grown-up” relationships. Read More > >
“It’s all your fault!” No matter what is happening you hear “It’s all your fault.” Even, if you weren’t there, it’s somehow all your fault. Maybe, it is. Maybe, you are absolutely incompetent, incapable, and unworthy in every way. But, it’s not likely all your fault. For one thing, you Continue Reading →
Are you being verbally abused? It’s there. It’s always in the air. It could strike or rebound at any time. Have you gone nose-blind to it? “Nose-blind” is a phrase from a TV ad for air-freshener. The reason you’ve gone “nose-blind” to the awful smells in your house or car Continue Reading →
Hijackals™–those relentlessly difficult people in your life–like to think they have power over you. They practice that–in fact, check that–by trying to make you lose your cool. It’s that simple! I’m going to help you with these steps for keeping your cool around them. Usually, you are on guard for Continue Reading →
Children watch. From the moment they are born, they watch…and, they are watching you. Right from birth, your children watch. They are being imprinted with all that they take in through their senses, through what they see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. They have no language but they hear the Continue Reading →
You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where Continue Reading →
There is a BIG difference between a momentarily difficult partner and a chronically difficult partner. Difficult people have bad days, weeks, or moments that are related to stress and life events. Sometimes, a bad mood or temporary hormone imbalance makes that difference. A chronically difficult partner, though, is often–if not Continue Reading →
What could be better than to feel empowered, inspired, and balanced? Nothing. Here’s a bit of relationship advice for liking yourself more, and treating yourself well. Compassion is a good thing, a desirable quality, right? You demonstrate it in your relationships with others. You see their pain. You walk in Continue Reading →
If you want that drama to stop, and are really ready to do the work, you can have a free Relationship Advice Consultation with me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, by Zoom video! This is your opportunity to begin working with me to Read More > >
Many relationship issues arise from lack of listening. Hearing is NOT enough. You have to listen. The major difference between hearing and listening is that hearing engages your ears only and listening engages your mind. You hear lots of sounds: noises in the house, cars going by, televisions in the background. You Continue Reading →