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Relationship Help: 29 Proven Ways to Reduce Relationship Stress in the Holidays

Struggle, stress, push and pressure. Is that what you’re feeling right now as the holidays get into full swing? Stop! It’s not necessary. You’re in charge. Take fifteen minutes with a cup of something comforting and read this. It can take all that pressure off you and make this the best holiday season ever. I…

Passive Aggressive Relationships – When Is It Abuse?

Passive Aggressive Abuse in Relationships Leaving you shaking your head in disbelief, it’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are dead ends with no escape. You may even be dealing with a Hijackal®! It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! It requires relationship help! It’s covert, stealthy even! You’re…

Relationship Advice: Did Your Grown Kids Stop Talking with You?

If you are feeling wronged, rejected, abandoned or lost because your grown kids don’t talk with you, there’s a better way to think about it. KIDS!  Even when they are in their forties, they can still behave like KIDS, thoughtless, self-focused kids!  Are they: Holding grudges? Living in the past? Unable to accept who you…

How To Cope With Divorce | The Hijackal Trap

High conflict divorces involve at least one high conflict person… That’s a person who loves the sense of battle and is preoccupied with blaming and controlling. These divorces seem to never be final…at least, emotionally.  And, the children often suffer the most.  Motive and Means  distinguish a high conflict divorce from ones that are either Read More > >

Relationship Help: Adult Kids Not Talking to You?

I was on Facebook this morning reading the Mother’s Day messages.  Several spoke of their sense of pain and loss that their adult children were no longer communicating with them. It was particular pain of the phone not ringing and the post box empty on Mother’s Day.  understand that. It made me think of a…

Need Relationship Help? Take a moment for this!

Sometimes we are so mired down in the details of our lives that we forget to lift our heads and see the bigger picture. Today, I just wanted to give you something to warm your heart and lift your spirit…as well as your head. For there to be peace in our relationships, in our life…

Family Relationships: Whose story is true?

I just returned from a visit to family and friends in Canada. In twelve days, I spent time with many people in five cities. And stories abounded! Life stories, troubling incidents, and shared memories. The one unifying factor in all the stories was that everyone who experienced the story remembered it differently.  Some of those…

Relationship Help: Can the apple travel far from the tree? Yes!

Working with some wonderful men here in my Anger Management classes, I’m so encouraged to see that even though apples don’t fall far from trees, they can get up and crawl far away. And, being their travel guide warms my heart! Whatever our parents showed us by their lifestyle, or told us by their words…

Tips to Reduce the Trauma & Drama of Going Home for the Holidays

A little relationship advice because I know there are many folks who are looking forward to going home for the holidays, and, at the same time, dreading it. Their hopes are high that things will be different, and, yet, they fear things will be the same. Mom will be great for the first eight hours…