Difficult, toxic people like Hijackals and narcissists like to make you feel small. They weaponize your insecurities. Narcissists exploit you and your vulnerabilities. It's emotional abuse!
Hijackals, narcissists, and other toxic difficult people are mean.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Learn three kinds of empathy that can help with understanding the Hijackal behavior
- How Hijackals learn what to do to get what they want from you
- Why Hijackals are scornful of your vulnerabilities--even though they encourage you to share them
- What the biggest misconceptions about Hijackals--including those narcissists--is
- Why narcissists seem to hate you but won't let you go easily
In tender moments, they make you feel safe to tell them your innermost secrets, insecurities, and vulnerabilities. Then, they turn those into weapons! They laugh at you, make jokes about your insecurities in front of others, and exploit your vulnerabilities to their advantage. Sound familiar?
Hijackals want to have the upper hand at all times. Maybe, you share something that embarrassed you, or share something that scares you, or share something you are afraid of. It feels like a tender moment, and you SO want it to be the intimacy that you long for. You want that emotional closeness. It's what you've been waiting for.
Imagine how they rub their hands with glee when you share something with them that puts you in a vulnerable light, or a bad light! They weaponize your insecurities and expose you, blame you, or shame you. They particularly like to do it in public when they hope you'll let it pass without speaking up.
When narcissists exploit you it feels really lousy. Today we're going to talk about how to navigate those feelings, and your way out from under this exploitation.
WHY? What's up with these people?
GUEST: Kim Saeed
Kim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the Kind bestseller, How To Go No Contact Like A Boss.
In How To Go No Contact Like A Boss, Kim Saeed wrote,
"During the detox from a toxic relationship, it's very common for those in recovery to ruminate obsessively over their ex and the events that led to the disintegration of the relationship. This results from addiction to the reward-and-punishment peptides that the victim's brain formed during the course of the relationship. Obsessive thinking is often the result of your subconscious mind's attempt to re-abuse you in the absence of your toxic partner. simply in order to get those peptides flowing again."
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Learn more at LetMeReach.com
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