How & Why to STOP ENABLING a Hijackal

You are likely anxious, feeling unsafe, angry, and exhausted from life with a relentless difficult Hijackal. Understanding enabling and knowing how to stop–beginning with small ways–is important for your well-being and mental health. You likely never meant to become an enabler. It happens slowly. And, just as slowly, you abandon yourself in favor of meeting the needs and taking responsibility for the actions of another person.

See the enabling clearly, and use these 10 Ways to find your way back from enabling other adults. Not your job!


  • Dr. Shaler’s definition of enabling
  • How enabling differs from empathy
  • Not being responsible for the actions of others
  • Essential nature of boundaries
  • 10 Ways to Stop Enabling over time

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