Personal Relationship Consulting & Education | San Diego & Everywhere by Video Conferencing

THOUGHTS ON PRIVATE SESSIONS to help you Resolve Relationship Problems within yourself, with others at home and at work….

Sometimes we tend to think of working with a professional as a last resort, the place we go that shows the problem is bigger than our skill set and that somehow we have failed.

I have a different view.

I think wise people, ones who know what they want and are focused on creating the best life, relationships and business success possible, naturally get help the moment they know they need it. Classes and Consulting are that kind of help.

I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and I’ve been working with folks like you for more than twenty-five years. Helping individuals, couples and families get the insights, skills and strategies they need to create the life and relationships they most want is what lights my fire. That’s why I only work with people who are ready to see through, think through and work through the obstacles and fears, scripts and blind spots that will allow them to flourish, to experience the life, love and livelihood they long for.

Everyone has obstacles, fears, scripts and blind spots! It’s whether or not you work through them that makes all the difference to the quality of your life.

…and, Geography is no obstacle to us working together. 

If you live in San Diego, you are welcome to come to my office.  If you live anywhere else, the magic of Skype with video conferencing puts us together instantly.

Relationship sessions and small-group coaching are easily done via web-based video in my private conference “room”. All you need is a computer with a camera (or even a smartphone) and you’re ready to step into my office from anywhere in the world.

call Dr. Shaler directly at the Optimize Center – 760.593.4604

More about Dr. Shaler’s unique approach to helping you get the results you want…

Dr. Shaler says, “I am a Life Mechanic.”

photo-balancedYears ago, I was in the habit of going to a particular watering hole each Friday after work to meet with colleagues and friends. Although I’m allergic to alcohol, it was a wonderful community of professionals who enjoyed the Friday late afternoon rituals of gathering, talking and preparing for the weekend.

New people would drift through and stop to chat. Of course, one of the first questions a man would ask me is

“What do you do?” (It was after the ‘What is your sign?” era…lol)

I quickly learned that mentioning my work at that time, as a therapist, caused most to put their hands over their faces and say,

“Don’t read me. Don’t figure me out!” in mock horror.

So, I learned to have conversations like this:

“What do you do when your car breaks down?”

I take it to the shop.”

“Why do you take it to the shop?”

“Because I don’t know how to fix it myself. The guys there, that’s all they do, so they are the experts and I don’t have to be.”

“So, you know the value of a mechanic.”


“Great, then. The answer to “What do I do?” is that I am a life mechanic!”

This seemed quite acceptable as well as logical. I think it is true for everyone. And, we all know that it is better to take our cars to the shop at the first sign of a clunk or rattle than to wait until we’re completely unable to move in a dangerous part of town late at night!

Relationship Consulting Sessions are available in my office, in your office or on the telephone, as well as through Skype and Google+.

Call for further information and to make an appointment.


Dr. Shaler is clear and wants you to be, too.

“Only come to work with me if you really want your life, relationships and business to work AND are willing to do what it takes to make that so.

Let’s not waste time or money! Change and grow….or go!”


Everyone is welcome to work with Dr. Shaler. Her particular specialties are:

  • working with couples – couples who want to save, sustain, strengthen … or peacefully end… their relationship.
  • working with individuals who want to improve and master effective communication skills
  • working with the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of relentlessly difficult, toxic, and disturbing people  (She calls them Hijackals®.)
  • working with companies who want to ease workplace tensions caused by poor communication and leadership skills

Call today. 760.593.4604