THOUGHTS ON PRIVATE SESSIONS to help you resolve relationship problems within yourself, with others at home and at work...
Do you tend to think of working with a professional as a last resort?
Do you think you should be able to handle things? Even, when the pain you’re feeling is bigger than your skills set to handle it?
Do you think of it as somehow failing if you need help?
I have a different view.
I think wise people, ones who know what they want and are focused on creating the best life, relationships and business success possible, naturally get help the moment they know they need it. Classes and Consulting are that kind of help.
I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I’ve been working with folks like you for more than twenty-five years, helping individuals, couples and families get the insights, skills and strategies they need to create the life and relationships they most want.
Everyone has obstacles, fears, scripts and blind spots!
It’s whether or not you work through them that makes all the difference to the quality of your life.
My partner offered me your video.. however, I am mind boggled that it is her that is the Hijackal.. it all makes sense to me right now… I always knew that she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions and I am always to blame.. and eventually I started to believe her as I love her .. Oh my god!… Read more
These are AMAZING recommendations! So practical and to the point. ‘Be the model for what you want to be for your children!’ Thanks so much, Dr. Shaler.
Chilled my bones when she said about trying to get you pregnant as means of control! Once I was pregnant (with twins), I suddenly felt terrifyingly trapped and it only dawned on me then.
Ah ! Because of this page and your help . You’re an angel, honestly. I would still be doing the same thing I was doing a year ago if I hadn’t met you.
Thanks to you, I saw a pattern and realized I was being manipulated. After a very abusive day yesterday I ended the relationship. Thank you for the strength my friend.
Thank you very much for your love and joy of teaching others to use our gifts and talents more fully. I am enjoying my gift of being “present!”
The help and information you share makes me feel I can breathe again. I am not alone in this. Thank you.
Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.
Raised by, and all partners have been Hijackals. The last,was the most damaging. Thanks to you, after nearly 5 years of Severe verbal and emotional abuse, I’m out! I recommend you to women I meet who are in same boat. I’ve learned so much from you, the cycle is over!! Thank You ❤️
I thought of you many times over the last period of time.
I want to express my thank you to you as you helped me very much in a period of time that was difficult for me and when I had no knowledge nor methods to overcome them alone.
Further more, I’ve read some of your books and conversations with y… Read more
That’s why I only work with people who are ready to see through, think through and work through the obstacles and fears, scripts and blind spots that will allow them to flourish, to experience the life, love and livelihood they long for.
…and, geography is no obstacle to us working together.
Wherever you may live, the magic of Zoom private video conferencing puts us together, instantly.
Relationship sessions and small-group coaching are easily done via web-based video in my private conference “room”. All you need is a computer with a camera (or even a smartphone) and you’re ready to step into my office from anywhere in the world.
"I am a Life Mechanic."
Years ago, I was in the habit of going to a particular watering hole each Friday after work to meet with colleagues and friends. Although I’m allergic to alcohol, it was a wonderful community of professionals who enjoyed the Friday late afternoon rituals of gathering, talking and preparing for the weekend.
New people would drift through and stop to chat. Of course, one of the first questions a man would ask me is
“What do you do?” (It was after the ‘What is your sign?” era…lol)
I quickly learned that mentioning my work at that time, as a therapist, caused most to put their hands over their faces and say,
“Don’t read me. Don’t figure me out!” in mock horror.
So, I learned to have conversations like this:
“What do you do when your car breaks down?”
“I take it to the shop.”
“Why do you take it to the shop?”
“Because I don’t know how to fix it myself. The guys there, that’s all they do, so they are the experts and I don’t have to be.”
“So, you know the value of a mechanic.”
“Great, then. The answer to “What do I do?” is that I am a life mechanic!”
This seemed quite acceptable as well as logical. I think it is true for everyone. And, we all know that it is better to take our cars to the shop at the first sign of a clunk or rattle than to wait until we’re completely unable to move in a dangerous part of town late at night!
Ready to take your toxic relationship into the shop? It’s possible it can come out working better… or it might just be time to send it to the junkyard. I’ll help you figure that out, and work with you to take the next best steps.