You do nothing wrong, yet the narcissist hates you. You are happy, and the #Hijackal humiliates you to take you down. Understand what's going on with them when they hate and humiliate. HINT: It's not about you!
Hate and Humiliation often go together. #Hijackals--relentlessly difficult, toxic people--hate and humiliate to get the upper hand in relationships...AND to make you feel bad about yourself especially in front of other people. It’s nasty! Listen in to understand the double standards of enjoying watching other people be humiliated on Reality TV or Celebrity Roasts, yet hating to be the object of humiliation ourselves. Then, make better decisions about what to do about your relationship with a #Hijackal!
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- Why we laugh when other people are humiliated
- What "celebrity roasts" are really about and why you need to know
- How deprecating supposedly humor takes the heat off the speaker
- How hate and humiliation too often go together
- Clearly seeing why #Hijackals hate and humiliate
- Know why you cannot tolerate hateful comments and broadsiding humiliation from a Hijackal
- Schadenfreude: the tendency to take delight in the misery of others
- Throwing shade: clever and humiliating
#Narcissists and other #Hijackals hate to see you happy. They resent it and too often take swings at you--in every way--to take you down and make you as unhappy as they are inside. Yes, they may appear confident and in control, but inside they are conflicted and concerned every minute.
Hijackals work on the premise that making others feel small, miserable, angry, unhappy, and demeaned will assure and secure their power and control. Hence, they use hate and humiliation to accomplish that. Again, nasty!
If you are in a relationship with a partner, parent, sibling, or co-worker that you now recognize is based on underlying hate and the need and desire to humiliate, it's time to take action and get help. That is not OK on any level.
You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship based on honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability.