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anger in relationship

Speaking When You’re Angry Costs Too Much. Do This Instead.

You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where do I want to be

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chronically difficult person

Trapped By a Hijackal in Sheep’s Clothing? Beware!

Hijackals™ are chameleons when you first meet them. They will be just what you want them to be…and that’s the beginning of the path to feeling trapped. It’s like they can read your soul and give you the love, attention, and understanding you have longed for.   S/he scooped you up, engaged you fully, and stole

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Relationship help for dealing with a chronically difficult person,
chronically difficult people

Why Your Partner Always Makes You Feel Not Good Enough

“Nothing I do is right, not good enough. I do my best but it seems it’s never enough.” Do you feel that way much of the time with your partner, your mother, or a boss? Not just occasionally, but most of the time? (Watch the video at the bottom of this post for quick information on

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“What Do You Mean I’m Not The Center Of The Universe?”

Some people need to be the star of the show, the object of attention, the center of the Universe. Then, there are some chronically difficult people who absolutely demand that position most of the time. And, if you’re not applauding, they say there is something wrong with you! Whether they take center stage by being

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chronically difficult person

Difficult Partner ? Or, Chronically Difficult? Big difference!

There is a BIG difference between a momentarily difficult partner and a chronically difficult partner. Difficult people have bad days, weeks, or moments that are related to stress and life events. Sometimes, a bad mood or temporary hormone imbalance makes that difference. A chronically difficult partner, though, is often–if not always–difficult. You walk on eggshells

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Are you half of a High-Conflict couple?

High-Conflict Couples exhaust themselves and, eventually, the relationship. Because High Conflict Couples have one or both partners who: Just want to keep the conflict going, any conflict. Blames, shames and/or judges…and then justifies his/her own behaviors by making it their partner’s fault. Is always seeing the downside potential in everything. Holds on to ideas and

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feeling taken for granted

Ever say ‘I’m Feeling Taken For Granted In My Relationship?”

Feeling taken for granted is an underlying relationship problem that can pop up regularly. It wears many disguises in a relationship. When your partner finds ways to justify behavior that leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported, it’s likely that you will start feeling taken for granted. S/he just expects that you will somehow understand

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Get relationship help now for yourself if you suspect you are living with, or divorced from a high conflict person.
Anger Management

Manage Anger Or It Will Manage You!

When people come to me for anger management coaching and classes, they often say: “I don’t like who I am when I let my anger fly!”  They are disappointed, embarrassed, humiliated, and/or, having to mop up a big spill of emotions that didn’t need to happen. You might say, “Yes, it did! I just couldn’t stand

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chronically difficult people

Passive Aggressive Relationships – When Is It Abuse?

Passive Aggressive Abuse in Relationships Leaving you shaking your head in disbelief, it’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are dead ends with no escape. You may even be dealing with a Hijackal®! It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! It requires relationship help! It’s covert, stealthy even! You’re

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Passive Aggressive Behavior Examples

It’s important to have some passive aggressive behavior examples because too many people like to throw labels around–especially when they are angry! When someone won’t do what you want them to do, that’s just them either being too busy, disinterested, unwilling, or just plain ornery.  Who knows? When someone doesn’t do what they promised they

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