Book, Interview or Feature Dr. Shaler

That was such a well done interview and so helpful to me! –I took 11 pages of notes! –

I’m thankful you’re getting the word out, Dr. Shaler! It has made a life-changing difference for me.

Chilled my bones when she said about trying to get you pregnant as means of control! Once I was pregnant (with twins), I suddenly felt terrifyingly trapped and it only dawned on me then.

Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.

I thought I may never have this freedom, I actually felt very little when he tried to pull me in. Thank You THANK You ?

Dr. Shaler, you have just described my previous life!!! I was married to a hijackal for almost 20 years and left 10 years ago. It has taken me 10 years to recover, but I did. Where were you 10 years ago??? I so hope you can help others who feel trapped and crazy as I did. Thank you!

I’m so relieved. I’ve been to several [sic:counselors] who sided with my crazy-making partner. Finally, someone who gets it, knows the feeling, sees the problem, and has helped me take positive steps.

Thank you very much for your love and joy of teaching others to use our gifts and talents more fully. I am enjoying my gift of being “present!”

I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.

I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.

Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.

I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.

I have set some boundries – for labeling and namecalling and they really help me to be more confident.

I however can’t find a way to be assertive when it comes to unloving behaviour. Example: I sing a funny song and say: “It was a funny song and I sang it well didn’t I'” and my partner says: “No…sorry I was not listening” (although he was standing next to me).

It infuriates me because I feel it is a power game and of course he doesn’t take responsibility for it.

 Please can you recomend some material for me to learn to respond assertively with this kind of behaviour.

Thank you very much and all the best to you!

Please meet my dear friend Dr. Rhoberta Shaler who is highly health aware and a master at navigating people through relationship dynamics like no other I know and from a very unique and empowering perspective. She is especially gifted at working with spouses, partners, exes and colleagues of relentlessly difficult people. You can see her accomplishments at http://forrelationshiphelp.com.