Dr. Rhoberta Shaler’s unique blend of warmth, wisdom and a wealth of information, will motivate your people and give them the strategies to shift their results from acceptable to EXCEPTIONAL!
Your decision today to book a keynote, seminar, book-signing or interview is a decision your audience will thank you for, for a long time!
Dr. Shaler has a broad and growing audience
Emotional Savvy: Your go-to source for life-changing shifts in how you think about–and create relationship with–yourself and other humans.
Save Your Sanity: Straight, compassionate talk to help you clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people I call Hijackals®. Understand what’s really going on within their volatile or passive-aggressive ways.
The Relationship Help Doctor: More than 370 videos (and growing) to empower the viewer to create healthier relationships with other humans, especially the relentlessly difficult, toxic kind that I call #hijackals.
Plus a weekly livestream on Mondays, at 6pm Pacific. New topic each week, with opportunities to ask questions and get in-depth support.
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Clients, Fans & Presenters say...
Thank you very much for your love and joy of teaching others to use our gifts and talents more fully. I am enjoying my gift of being “present!”
Please meet my dear friend Dr. Rhoberta Shaler who is highly health aware and a master at navigating people through relationship dynamics like no other I know and from a very unique and empowering perspective. She is especially gifted at working with spouses, partners, exes and colleagues of relentlessly difficult people. You can see her accomplishments at http://forrelationshiphelp.com.
As foretold, my ex got busy trying to engage me on Christmas Day. Thank you, Dr. Shaler for the heads up. Because of this page and your help, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas and not get sucked in ! That’s progress.
I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.I have set some boundries – for labeling and namecalling and they really help me to be more confident.I however can’t find a way to be assertive when it comes to unloving behaviour. Example: I sing a funny song and say: “It was a funny song and I sang it well didn’t I'” and my partner says: “No…sorry I was not listening” (although he was standing next to me).It infuriates me because I feel it is a power game and of course he doesn’t take responsibility for it.Please can you recomend some material for me to learn to respond assertively with this kind of behaviour.Thank you very much and all the best to you!
Chilled my bones when she said about trying to get you pregnant as means of control! Once I was pregnant (with twins), I suddenly felt terrifyingly trapped and it only dawned on me then.
Thank you Dr Shaler and may i just say, thank you for your work and your writings. You may have no idea just how much of a lifeline i have been thrown just by finding you and now your group.
In this program, the information shared was very enlightening. The Personal Weather Report(TM) is a great tool to use everyday and I get in touch with my thoughts, feelings, needs, ad wants. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler really knows the dynamics of relationships.
Thanks to you, I saw a pattern and realized I was being manipulated. After a very abusive day yesterday I ended the relationship. Thank you for the strength my friend.
Each week between classes, I was receptive to a lot of the concepts we discussed the previous week. Learning the concepts opens your eyes to them. Being able to recognize them makes them useful tools to build a better relationship.
Woah, a bone chilling presentation!! Wish I’d heard it about 10 years ago!
Books by Dr. Shaler
10 Absolute Essentials You Need to Keep Your Anger from Managing YOU! (PDF)$2.99
Escaping the Hijackal Trap: Volume 1 – The Truth About Hijackals and Why They Are Crazy-making (PDF)$3.99
How To Spot a Hijackal® (PDF)$2.99
If You Wonder If You’ve Been Abused… You Likely Have. (Kindle)
KAIZEN For COUPLES: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship (PDF)$6.99
Soul Solitude: Taking Time for Our Souls to Catch Up
Stop, That’s Crazy-Making!: How to quit the Passive-Aggressive game (PDF)$3.99
The Hijackal Trap – The Hidden Anger of Passive-Aggression (PDF)$3.99