"International Relationship Consultant helps women and men recognize and recover from crazy-making toxic relationships."
Your audience will enjoy Dr. Rhoberta Shaler’s unique blend of warmth, wisdom and a wealth of information and insights.
Dr. Shaler has a broad and growing audience.
A popular podcaster, with listeners in 74+ countries, Dr. Shaler brings a new perspective and wealth of information to your listeners, viewers, and summit attendees.
PODCAST: Save Your Sanity – Help For Toxic Relationships: Straight, compassionate talk to help you clearly see the patterns, traits, and cycles of the relentlessly difficult people I call Hijackals®. Understand what’s really going on within their volatile or passive-aggressive ways.
Emotional Savvy Podcast (archived): Your go-to source for life-changing shifts in how you think about–and create relationship with–yourself and other humans.
YOUTUBE: The Relationship Help Doctor : More than 350 videos (and growing) to empower the viewer to create healthier relationships with other humans, especially the relentlessly difficult, toxic kind that I call #hijackals.
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Clients, Fans & Presenters say...
I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.I have set some boundries –… Read more
Please meet my dear friend Dr. Rhoberta Shaler who is highly health aware and a master at navigating people through relationship dynamics like no other I know and from a very unique and empowering perspective. She is especially gifted at working with spouses, partners, exes and colleagues of relentlessly difficult people. You can see her accomplishments at https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/frhstaging.
So thankful for all this help you share <3 I Found your channel just in the right timing. All you explain is like you are living inside my marriage and outer circle. I am going to love reading your books for more information, so that I know the how to’s in the near future. It’s amazing that I still hold on to my sanity, whilst having to deal with all this lunatic behavior. Although my health took a big toll, and it’s no wonder, so much frustration and let-downs, questioning the what happened, I … Read more
That was such a well done interview and so helpful to me! –I took 11 pages of notes! –
Woah, a bone chilling presentation!! Wish I’d heard it about 10 years ago!
As foretold, my ex got busy trying to engage me on Christmas Day. Thank you, Dr. Shaler for the heads up. Because of this page and your help, I was able to have a wonderful Christmas and not get sucked in ! That’s progress.
I’ve just found your podcast this week, coincidentally on the 1st anniversary of my best friend’s death, man what a wake up!
My wife is a Hijackal, Did everything you say. You might as well describe my wife by name. So I just wanted to say thank you, as I write this with tears in my eyes I know the road is long but it has to happen. Thank you for opening my eyes and giving me some oxygen and removing the blur.
Chilled my bones when she said about trying to get you pregnant as means of control! Once I was pregnant (with twins), I suddenly felt terrifyingly trapped and it only dawned on me then.
I thought of you many times over the last period of time.
I want to express my thank you to you as you helped me very much in a period of time that was difficult for me and when I had no knowledge nor methods to overcome them alone.
Further more, I’ve read some of your books and conversations with you stimulated wonderful work on myself, which is ongoing.
Thank you so much.
All I can say is OMG. 29 years. I cried with relief and understanding and validate I am not crazy or hard of hearing.
Books by Dr. Shaler
10 Absolute Essentials You Need to Keep Your Anger from Managing YOU! (PDF)$2.99 Add to cart
Escaping the Hijackal Trap: Volume 1 – The Truth About Hijackals and Why They Are Crazy-making (PDF)$4.99 Add to cart
How To Spot a Hijackal® (PDF)$2.99 Add to cart
If You Wonder If You’ve Been Abused… You Likely Have. (Kindle)Buy on Amazon
KAIZEN For COUPLES: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship (PDF)$7.99 Add to cart
Soul Solitude: Taking Time for Our Souls to Catch UpGet it on Amazon
Stop, That’s Crazy-Making!: How to quit the Passive-Aggressive game (PDF)$4.99 Add to cart
The Hijackal Trap – The Hidden Anger of Passive-Aggression (PDF)$4.99 Add to cart