You asked two very important questions.
You can recreate an affectionate, loving, honest, and emotionally intimate relationship…if both people are willing! One person cannot create it.
It’s time to realize that a relationship is not working when you feel discounted, invisible, abandoned, abused, or forgotten. That does not mean leaving. It means sitting up and taking notice. Then, asking your partner straight up questions about his or her intentions for the relationship. It takes two to make a relationship work. If you have actually–and, I mean actually, because most people think they have but they haven’t–done your personal work to be sure that you are behaving in healthy ways with clearly expressed boundaries, and there is no movement towards each other, then you might consider leaving.
In my opinion, people leave far too soon. Relationship is hard work and people want it to be a fairy tale: easy, simple and clear. Life is painful, difficult and complicated, too. Relationships are all that, and most people need to get help to acquire the insights and skills that lead to healthy, emotionally intimate, mutually supportive ones.
You would get those great insights in my new book, KAIZEN for COUPLES: Smart Steps to Save, Sustain & Strengthen Your Relationship. It’s available in digital format and in print. http://www.optimizecenter.com/shop
I wish you well.
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