Take 3-5 minutes and get some insight into your relationship…
Couple Sitting On Sofa Arguing
This is a great place to start. We’ve carefully developed this survey* to ask deep questions and calculate your responses to give you the most accurate snapshot of where your relationship IS and what it could take to get is where you want to be.
Take your time to carefully consider each item in the Relationship Checklist. Answer as honestly as you possibly can, because it DOES make a difference.
SCORING: For each item in this quiz, give only one number between 1 and 5. 1 indicates it is almost never so in your relationship. 5 indicates it is almost always so.
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I can count on my partner to keep private things private between us.
Question 2 of 21
My partner and I enjoy talking together frequently about life, events, feelings and ideas.
Question 3 of 21
My partner not only hears the words I say but works to capture the meaning and feelings I want to convey.
Question 4 of 21
My partner is willing to talk with me and work out solutions for our relationship or communication issues.
Question 5 of 21
My partner and I encourage each other to grow and to change in positive ways.
Question 6 of 21
I question my partner’s fidelity.
Question 7 of 21
My partner and I choose not to hold grudges. We let go of things and move on.
Question 8 of 21
I can count on my partner not to throw old words, actions or events in my face, especially when there is anger present.
Question 9 of 21
I always know I have my partner in my corner. S/he has my back.
Question 10 of 21
Although my partner may not agree with my feelings, s/he acknowledges that I have them and am entitled to them.
Question 11 of 21
When my partner makes a mistake, s/he admits it rather than trying to justify it.
Question 12 of 21
My partner and I put our relationship above our individual needs and desires.
Question 13 of 21
I can be fully myself with my partner, with no need to pretend, withhold or coverup.
Question 14 of 21
My partner shows me that I am appreciated, loved, seen and heard.
Question 15 of 21
My partner does not always understand me, but s/he believes in me regardless of circumstances.
Question 16 of 21
I feel close to my partner in every way and s/he is the prime person I want to spend time with.
Question 17 of 21
My partner takes the initiative to create time to spend together.
Question 18 of 21
I can safely tell my partner what I am thinking, feeling, needing or wanting in any circumstance, without concern.
Question 19 of 21
My partner and I share our visions for our life and collaborate to make them a reality.
Question 20 of 21
My partner treats me with patience and interest.
Question 21 of 21
My partner readily gives me his/her full attention and wants to know what I feel, think, need and want.
*Disclaimer: The Relationship Checklist, created by relationship consultant, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, is intended for general use only. It is intended to provide you with insights about your relationship and does not purport to provide anything beyond stimulating your thinking. You are encouraged to consult Dr. Shaler or work with a professional counselor or therapist. This checklist is not intended to replace professional therapy or counseling.