eCourse – Seeing the Cycles – Recognizing Hijackal® Traits, Patterns & Cycles.



You need to have help to step back enough from the Hijackal Trap to see the traits, patterns, and predictable Hijackal® behavior. When you’re in it, confused, conflicted, and feeling caught, those patterns are really hard to see. Let Dr. Shaler show you, so that, next time you are blindsided, “flipped”, lied to, or manipulated, you’ll be on firmer ground.

Read below to clearly see the patterns, traits and cycles of Hijackal behavior, and why they are not your fault.


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A Self-Study Course to Help You Really Get Under the Skin and Understand the Toxic, Difficult People in Your Life

...and then, be better able to make decisions about how you want to interact with them.
13 Videos, Articles, Quizzes

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I could write a thirty-three page sales letter to convince you that this is the best thing since sliced bread and that you cannot live without it.

I know that’s not necessary because you know that what you’re going through now is exactly what you need to live without!

Things need to change.  This doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship has to end, but, it might. 

If you’ve found your way to me, you are ready for those things to change…yesterday!

You’re fed up, confused, frustrated, and infuriated–all the time wondering if you have a right to be. I know. I’ve been there!

I know you’re thinking that it’s you: if you were just more patient, loving, nurturing, encouraging, or ______, things would be different.

That’s not true! It’s not your fault. It takes two to tango. And, a Hijackal has, no doubt, told you numerous times a day that everything negative happening in the relationship is your fault!

I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.  

I’ve made it as easy as I can for you to get the exact help you need to clearly go in new and healthier directions to: 

  •  stop the crazy-making
  •  end the verbal and emotional abuse
  •  save your sanity! 

My Intensives help you see Hijackal® behavior clearly, identify the patterns, shift your thinking, and move towards a more empowering relationship with yourself and, therefore, with your partner, your ex, your parents, and your kids.

First, though, you need to be Seeing the Cycles. 

You need help, information, insights, and support to know what your next best steps are.


Here's how the SEEING THE CYCLES will help you: 

  • Figure out exactly what is going on in your relationship that is unhealthy. Sometimes, it's hard to put your finger on it!
  • Expose the patterns you're probably feeling--but not recognizing for what they are--that are frustrating, upsetting, and unhealthy in your relationship.
  • Get insights into how this relationship happened, and why.  There ARE reasons! You need to know this so you will not repeat the experience!
  • Change your perspective and get a new view of what is possible for you (and your children.)
  • Turn your mind towards what you deserve, what you want for yourself and your relationships.
  • Understand what is healthy, good, and safe for you.
  • Be empowered to take positive, progressive steps towards a healthier you, a healthier relationship, and a healthier future.
  • Get support to become more confident, more clear, and more life-giving ways!

How does it work?
Easy! Quickly! And, Well!

  • Twelve videos. Many articles. Quizzes to help you identify what's going on.
  • Self-study to go at your own pace, and really take in the insights and information.
  • Giving you all that you need to move on to the Intensives: Handling Hijackals, and the big program, Rediscovering You: Hijackal Recovery, with the San Diego retreat and six weeks of group coaching following.   

How much does it cost? 

This is Only $47 USD - Finally understand why you feel so trapped, and why it's not your fault.

You cannot change your relationship any earlier than right now. Don't waste another moment. It's not healthy. You deserve more.  

I want to help you feel clear, confident, and empowered to make and sustain the changes you need for have a happier, healthier future in your relationship. 


Let's talk soon.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Relationship Help Doctor

P.S. You deserve this. It is an investment in your future. Your life is going by. Your children's lives are going by. You cannot afford to put this off.

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