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Hi! I'm Dr. Rhoberta Shaler,
The Relationship Help Doctor.
I help the partners, exes, and adult children of relentlessly difficult people save their sanity and stop the crazy-making!
I call these people "Hijackals™."
Hijackals are people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power status and control.
I can help you if you're with a Hijackal, have left one, or were raised by one.
How? By giving you the insights, strategies--and a some surprisingly effective new skills--to end the verbal and emotional abuse. New ways to think about the impact of Hijackals on your life, no matter whether they are sleeping next to you, or are long gone. You need these to create a happier, healthier and safer life for yourself and your children.
If you are living with someone who always makes you wrong, makes everything your fault, and never takes responsibility for anything, you need these immediate insights, skills, and strategies. You'll get huge help--and relief--from your Optimize Access Pass.
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You'll know you're ready if you are:
- Exhausted from arguing or walking on eggshells
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- Questioning your sanity too often
- Tired of all the drama
- Beaten down by always being told you're wrong or at fault
- Concerned about what your children are seeing, hearing, and knowing
- Trying to co-parent with an uncooperative ex who wants to punish y ou
- Reflecting on what you really, really want and need in your relationship, and what you have isn't it
- Wanting right-on-topic, brand-new, effective insights and strategies to move you forward right away
- Want to feel less alone, safe, and secure while learning what you need to know to improve your life and relationships
If you're still not quite ready to work with me privately, becoming an Optimize Access member is a great start. This offers very specific and unique who, what, why, how-to, why-to content I've created only for members.
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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Relationship Help Doctor