DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?
You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.
Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.
Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secureand feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.
When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!
Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!
"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."
Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?
- How do you know when to terminate a relationship?
- How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?
- What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)
- I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?
- How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?
This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.