Looking for help to SAVE your relationship?

Right now, my relationship feels:

If you need relationship advice, solutions to relationship problems, or answers to relationship questions, you're in the right place.

You need answers to your relationship questions, and solutions to your relationship issues.

In your relationship, things may feel rocky, distant, broken, or even, hopeless, right now. Don’t give up!

Lots of people need help with their relationship. Relationships are not easy!

I can help. I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, and I’d like to offer you some quick, free tips that could help you start to save your relationship right now!

I want you to know that there are many things you can do to improve it, to breathe new life into it, and to create a closer, more emotionally intimate bond than you’ve had before!


Are you actually in a committed relationship?

Or, are you in what I call in my book, KAIZEN FOR COUPLES, a “Hokey-Pokey Relationship?

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A hokey-pokey relationship is one where you have one foot in and one foot out. It’s the one where your friends or family tell you that “You can always get a divorce.” That’s lethal..and one cause of the high divorce rate, too!

People in committed relationships do their best to find solutions. Hokey-Pokey people take the easy way out…and, unfortunately, they get a lot of support for doing it from friends who don’t know to fix relationship problems, and solve relationship issues, either! They only know how to tell you to walk away. Not a great solution, in most cases.

Commitment takes work…and honesty, respect, vulnerability, learning, transparency, and a few other not-so-easy things to face. But, it’s worth it!

You might be afraid to face the truth of your relationship. 

The beginning of the journey to a healthy relationship is to recognize that your current one is NOT healthy for either of you. Some people don’t want to face this because:

  1. They think they have failed, and don’t want to admit there are relationship problems.
  2. They are afraid of getting help and what might be asked of them.
  3. They don’t want to find out that they are contributing to the problem. They prefer to blame it on their partners.
  4. They don’t care enough…about themselves, their partner, or the relationship.


REALITY CHECK: If your relationship is exhausting you--and maybe, both of you--you need help now before there is any further damage to either of you.
You deserve that! 

If you could have turned your relationship around without relationship help, you would have by now.

That’s really hard to do, and it gets harder the longer you wait to get help.

Schedule your first appointment today.

Toxic, Explosive or Corrosive?

Toxic relationships are sometimes hard to recognize when you’ve been in one for a while.

Like a bad odor, you get used to the smell and stop noticing and start accepting. You come home one day and there it is! You hadn’t noticed it for so long but now it’s too much. Maybe even friends and family have commented on it.

Schedule an introductory session with me, and let’s talk about those issues and how you can rise above them with new boundaries and strategies.

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Are you emotionally stuck? Or Frozen in Hope?

It’s not uncommon to feel paralyzed in a relationship with a high-conflict person – someone who is adept at making life difficult. You never quite know what the “right” thing to do is, nor if you can make a decision and have it be accepted.

I can help you get unstuck.

Start with an introductory session – just $97. If you are ready to work on things, we can talk about your situation and how you can learn what to do to not feel frozen or paralyzed by your relationship anymore.

You can also learn more about dealing with Hijackals, chronically difficult people.

Is your partner’s behaviour Confusing, Bullying or Manipulative?

Tired of being manipulated and bullied? Sick to death of having to do everything their way? You can learn to stand your ground and stand up for yourself.

Schedule an introductory session and let’s talk about the issues you face and how best to re-boot your approach to them.

You can also learn more about dealing with Hijackals, chronically difficult people here.

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Does your partner seem Sneaky, Sabotaging or Dishonest?

When we have someone in our relationship who is sabotaging that relationship (or our relationships with other people), things can feel really uneasy but you’re not exactly sure why.

If you’re done with this kind of behavior – finally had enough with the deceit and difficulty, book an introductory session and let’s talk about best next steps for you.

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