About Rhoberta

The Relationship Help Doctor
Host of Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Toxic Relationships


Dr. Shaler specializes in working with the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls “Hijackals®.” 

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, offers urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis through consulting, speaking, video, and podcasting.  She particularly focuses her expertise on the partners, ex’s, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, disturbing people she calls Hijackals®. Dr. Shaler makes it easy for you to talk with her through Zoom video conferencing worldwide.

Working with people struggling with life, death, and relationship for over thirty years in Canada and the United States, Dr. Shaler has brought hope, comfort, strength, new direction, and success to countless people who honestly believed it was impossible. Even the United States Marines have used her services!

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That could be true if you are:

  • Being put down, torn down, or worn down by a difficult partner
  • Missing emotional intimacy and true partnership
  • Tired of constant drama
  • Raised by Toxic Parents
  • Too much crazing-making conflict
  • Need help dealing with someone who is relentlessly difficult, if not downright impossible! 

Find Community

Join my Optimize Circles and connect with others who are going through Hijackal Relationships

Relationships in conflict foster fear, frenzy and friction. They can be crazy-making, causing you to second-guess yourself, or question your sanity. Dr. Shaler calms the turbulence of troubled relationships, offering the insights, strategies, and pattern-breaking skills that lead to creating blame-free, game-free, non-manipulative relationships. She consults with people worldwide through Zoom video conferencing, helping to discover the possibilities for restoring connections, improving communication, and deepening emotional intimacy, when possible.

Dr. Shaler helps her clients clarify their thoughts, feelings, wants, and needs now, leading to healthier decisions for relationships, together or apart.

Author of sixteen personal growth and relationship books, her most recent ones help those struggling with relationships with chronically difficult people, the Hijackals.

Dr. Shaler’s work has been featured on FoxNewsPsychCentralCosmopolitanGood HousekeepingThe Good Men ProjecteHarmonyCare2GreatistPulseYourTango, and The Needs, among many others.


Newsletter  Tips for Relationships , provides frequent valuable strategies. and notices of upcoming videos, webinars, and classes.

YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and skills. Join her each Monday evening, at 6 PM Pacific Time for her livestream, Help for Toxic Relationships. Subscribe.

Podcasts:  Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships   New episodes twice a week, wherever you prefer to find your podcasts.

Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show (Now archived, with over 100 episodes to listen to.)

If you want further information regarding The Relationship Help Doctor and media interviews or professional speaking, see her press kit, visit ForRelationshipHelp.com/work-with-Rhoberta

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