I'd love to welcome you to my Optimize Circles.
I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and I’ve created a safe place of support for you, away from Facebook, so you can feel secure. Share your journey. Ask your questions. Learn, grow, and heal.
In your life journey, you’ve likely met one or two of the relentlessly difficult, crazy-making folks I call Hijackals®. That’s what has drawn you to this group. I certainly have. I was raised by Hijackals, married, divorced and co-parented with one, and have been through some of what you are experiencing now. That’s why I want to help.
I created the word, Hijackals®, to describe people who hijack relationships–for their own purposes–and then, relentlessly scavenge them for power, status, and control. It could be a parent, partner, ex, friend, or co-worker.
I can help you if you’re with a Hijackal, have left one, or were raised by one.
Join today and start building your resilience around Hijackals now! You CAN recover from the abusive and crazy-making behavior, and restore your sense of self, sanity and confidence.
Select a Circle below, complete the registration form, I’ll send you a login for the private member’s area here on my website.
If you are living with someone who:
- always makes you wrong
- makes everything your fault
- never takes responsibility for anything
- never sincerely apologizes
You need these immediate insights, skills, and strategies. You’ll get huge help–and relief–from being part of Focus on Forward.
When you are hurt, confused, demeaned, and exhausted by your relationship, you need to be “where everybody knows your name,” where everyone knows the journey.
- Ask your questions.
- Express your feelings.
- Ask for insights and support.
- Learn new strategies
- Learn from other people’s experiences
Also, I’ll be in and out of discussion groups several times each day to add my voice with specific answers, insights, skills, and strategies. I’ll help you find the clarity you need to know exactly what to do next!
Exclusive Content just for Members
- Monthly members call, (Talking Circle +) with me, Dr. Shaler, where you can ask your questions.
- Exclusive video and digital content to help you see, understand, and effectively deal with difficult people and situations,
with new content added regularly.
- Access to my Frequently Asked Questions database (over 150 relationship questions answered for you – and more added regularly) (Talking Circle + can submit questions, too)
- Exclusive access to the Emotional Savvy Forum where you can absolutely safely ask your questions, talk about your pain, get support for your troubles from people who truly are walking with you and fully understand!
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