Category Archives: Verbal & Emotional Abuse

Got Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness?

GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life. Brenda is an…

What Good Is There In Receiving Criticism From Someone You Hardly Know?

Have you ever experienced receiving criticism from someone you hardly knew–and, who hardly knew you?  It’s a strange situation, isn’t it? I think so. I wonder if they think it is a way to build intimacy in a relationship that is barely past the acquaintance stage? Or, is it an attempt to demonstrate their vast awareness…

verbal abuse and emotional abuse when angry

Being Verbally Abused May Be Something You’ve Gone “Nose-Blind” To!

Are you being verbally abused? It’s there. It’s always in the air. It could strike or rebound at any time. Have you gone nose-blind to it? “Nose-blind” is a phrase from a TV ad for air-freshener. The reason you’ve gone “nose-blind” to the awful smells in your house or car is because you have grown…

Gaslighting | Hijackal® Relationships

Have you started second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity around your partner, parent or boss? Do you have a totally version of what happened in any situation than s/he does? You could be experiencing “gaslighting.” That’s when another person purposefully wants to be in control of your experience of a situation. In fact, they want…

Hoovering | Hijackal™ Relationships

“Hoovering?”  Yes, it’s a thing! It happens in relationships with Hijackals ™. Have you been “hoovered?” Have you walked away from the relationship for very good reasons? You were strong. You knew what you were doing and why you were doing it. And, then, somehow, you got sweet-talked, bargained with, promised, and cajoled into taking your…

Things always your fault? It's crazy-making.

Always Your Fault? Always Wrong? You May Be With A Hijackal.

Is everything–somehow–always your fault? Do you so much want to believe your partner loves you, yet, you are so frequently being hurt? Do you justify your partner’s behavior with “S/he is just having a bad day, a bad time, under stress” too often? People who cannot allow themselves to think for one minute that something…

Crazy-Making? Verbal Abuse? Narcissism? Emotional Abuse? The Right Place For Relationship Help!

I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. I want to help you to stop the seemingly endless cycle of conflicts, miscommunications, crazy-making habits, alienation, and constant drama. You’re in the right place for relationship help. “The help and information you share makes me feel I can breathe again. I am not alone in this. Thank you.” “Thank you, Read More > >

Hijackals never stop finding fault and demanding control and power

Anger & Aggression Ruin Relationships. Think About This.

When there is anger and aggression, do the wise thing: look inward first. Why start with you? Because you can’t change others! Be wise. Start with yourself. Anger and aggression? Other people can be crazy-making. No doubt! And, they can be scary: demeaning, belittling, demanding, threatening. All those things are aggressive. And, you so want…

Scary difficult person who mkaes you feel trapped and anxious.

Trapped By a Hijackal in Sheep’s Clothing? Beware!

Hijackals™ are chameleons when you first meet them. They will be just what you want them to be…and that’s the beginning of the path to feeling trapped. It’s like they can read your soul and give you the love, attention, and understanding you have longed for.   S/he scooped you up, engaged you fully, and stole…

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