Category Archives: Personal Growth

Relationship Help: Are You Tripping Over the Trash of the Past?

It is really hard to have a relationship in the present moment when you are focused on the trash of the past. Today’s relationship help offers insights to keep in mind when you’re tempted to turn around and focus on the past. When you do that, you are truly missing the relationship in front of you in…

Relationship Help: Are you living in daytight compartments?

Embrace the idea of daytight compartments!  I’ll tell you why it is important, urgent and, even, essential if you want to have a healthy, happy relationship. Twenty-five years ago, my practice was filled with people with life-threatening diagnoses and their families. It was wonderful to share the journey with them and watch the amazing healing…

Relationship Problems: Make This the Holiday Season You Want it to Be!

Relationship problems and the holidays? It happens. Oh, we so hope everyone will be different when we visit them this holiday season…especially the difficult, fearful and judgmental ones! In fits of wishful thinking, we hope that any growth we have achieved during the past year will have, by osmosis, been passed along to them.  They…

Relationship Help: Got boundaries? Or, faultfinding down to an art?

Some people have been carefully trained to be faultfinders. They look for the problems, the inadequacies, the not-quite-good-enoughs, and the less-than-perfects…and pounce! Fault is often the first thing out of their mouths. You might know one or two such folks.  Maybe, you’re related to one? Or, married to one?  Or, do you have faultfinding down…

What Steve Jobs taught us about connecting the dots

Life is a continuum. It doesn’t go in fits and starts, even when it seems to be lurching from joy to crisis. Steve Jobs’ legacy for living was to help us see the bigger picture when we could choose to stay complaining in the dark. Have you ever dreaded meeting someone because you knew they…

Relationship Help: Rage. You don’t have to live with it.

Rage! That’s different from simple anger. It is another class of upheaval.  Rage is defined as “violent and uncontrolled anger.”  A whole other class.  And, no one needs to live with it, neither the Rager nor the recipient. The operant difference between anger and rage is the violence and the lack of control.  We all…

Relationship Help: Making excuses is inexcusable

Anticipating a new client in my counseling practice today, I came in early. Preparing for her arrival, I was reflecting on what little I knew about her, yet understanding how great her need was to begin the process of unwrapping and unpacking things that were standing in the way of moving on with life and…

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