Category Archives: Conflict Management

Keeping Your Cool When Hijackals™ Don’t!

Hijackals™–those relentlessly difficult people in your life–like to think they have power over you. They practice that–in fact, check that–by trying to make you lose your cool. It’s that simple! I’m going to help you with these steps for keeping  your cool around them. Usually, you are on guard for the next irritation when you’re…

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Speaking When You’re Angry Costs Too Much. Do This Instead.

You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where do I want to be…

Relationship Advice: Is Your Friend’s Relationship Emotionally Dangerous?

Are you afraid that your friend is in an emotionally dangerous relationship? Here’s some immediate relationship help, so you can share it with your friend right away. You want your friend to be safe, yet you see his or her partner behaving in less-than-loving ways too often. How can you know if s/he is in…

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Ever say ‘I’m Feeling Taken For Granted In My Relationship?”

Feeling taken for granted is an underlying relationship problem that can pop up regularly. It wears many disguises in a relationship. When your partner finds ways to justify behavior that leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported, it’s likely that you will start feeling taken for granted. S/he just expects that you will somehow understand…

Repeating The Same Fight? It’s Not About What You Think It’s About!

Most couples have “that” fight, over and over. It’s the one thing that never gets resolved. The one thing that doesn’t change. One, or both of you, think it should. But nothing changes. Are you repeating the same fight? Know this for sure: the fight is not about what you think it is about!  And,…

Having Trouble Co-Parenting with Your Difficult Ex?

 Co-Parenting with your former spouse is about the children, not about the parents…ideally! Children need to know–and feel–they are more important than the conflict that is, or was, between their parents. Maintaining that is what effective, conscious co-parenting is all about. Co-parenting well provides stability for the child while allowing the child to maintain close relationships…

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How To Handle Anger In Others And Yourself

Can you handle anger if you don’t know where it is coming from? Sarcasm, potshots and offhand comments made to you while others are present so that you cannot respond. Sound familiar? If you recognize that you use sneaky anger or you are on the receiving end of sneaky anger, then you will benefit from…

Relationship Help: Does Your Ex Bad Mouth You to Your Kids?

It is SUCH an obvious thing that should not happen: ex-partners badmouthing one another to the children. That’s when you really might need to step up and get relationship help to put a stop to it!  It is SO important to manage your relationship with your ex WITH YOUR EX, NOT through the kids!  But,…

Get relationship help now for yourself if you suspect you are living with, or divorced from a high conflict person.

Relationship Advice: “That REALLY bugs me!!!”

  Are there things your partner does that cause you to say “That REALLY bugs me!”? And, when you say it, are you thinking s/he should now change that behavior?  Oops! That’s not a reasonable expectation. I know you might think it is and you might even pull out that old, awful, in-my-opinion-never-to-be-heard-again phrase:  “If…

Relationship Help: Are You Getting Diatribes When You’re Wanting Dialogues?

Sometimes, we’re afraid to open up conversations about troubling issues for fear it will only make matters worse. We’re afraid that we’ll be met with a diatribe and there will be no dialogue. Sound familiar? What’s a diatribe? Well, that’s when someone holds forth and seldom takes a breath while giving you all the reasons,…