Category Archives: Partner/Spouse

Going Home for the Holidays & Hoping It Will Be Different?

Is it realistic to expect that you can go home for the holidays and people will treat you as you are at this point in your life? Or, will they treat as they are comfortable thinking of you as they knew you? Sometimes, people like to keep us in the box they drew around us…

Relationship Help: Are You Living with a High-Conflict Person?

High-conflict people leave you feeling used, abused and usually wrong. You cannot do enough to make them happy, get their approval, or feel you can relax. That takes relationship help. You may well be living or working with a high-conflict person if: you never quite feel you can trust them you always feel as though…

Passive-Aggressive Behavior: Why Do You Tolerate It?

Passive-aggressive behavior is crazy-making. You know–especially if you’ve been reading this blog for a while–that to end passive-aggressive behavior you need to have strong boundaries. So why do you continue to tolerate passive-aggressive behavior? It takes two to be passive-aggressive you know. A person cannot play that game alone!  So, why do you play?  Do…

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Trapped By a Hijackal in Sheep’s Clothing? Beware!

Hijackals™ are chameleons when you first meet them. They will be just what you want them to be…and that’s the beginning of the path to feeling trapped. It’s like they can read your soul and give you the love, attention, and understanding you have longed for.   S/he scooped you up, engaged you fully, and stole…

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Why Your Partner Always Makes You Feel Not Good Enough

“Nothing I do is right, not good enough. I do my best but it seems it’s never enough.” Do you feel that way much of the time with your partner, your mother, or a boss? Not just occasionally, but most of the time? (Watch the video at the bottom of this post for quick information on…

Letting Love Slip Away?

Letting love slip away happens when you lose focus on what is most important: your relationship. Too often, relationships that start well-connected begin to lose their moorings. Letting love slip away is like having a boat that you valued so much and spent so much time enjoying. That boat was a dream, something you longed for,…

12 Relationship “Do’s” For A More Loving Holiday Season

TWELVE RELATIONSHIP “DO’S” FOR THE HOLIDAYS ….and every day!  Relationship help that, well…helps!  People fall in love, get engaged and get married over the holidays.  People visit families and feel at home, or remember why they seldom visit.  People react to the stress of the holidays poorly and relationships crack, develop fracture lines, or fall…

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Ever say ‘I’m Feeling Taken For Granted In My Relationship?”

Feeling taken for granted is an underlying relationship problem that can pop up regularly. It wears many disguises in a relationship. When your partner finds ways to justify behavior that leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported, it’s likely that you will start feeling taken for granted. S/he just expects that you will somehow understand…

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What To Do When Your Partner Wants To “Take A Break”

One of the relationship questions I am often asked is:  “what do I do–and what does it mean–when my partner wants to ‘take a break’? ” To the person hearing it, it usually doesn’t sound like a good thing. For the person saying it, it can be a relationship saver–in the right conditions. “I think we…

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Are You Letting Jealousy Ruin Your Relationship?

JEALOUSY! The green, fire-breathing monster lies in wait to devour relationships! Is it just waiting for an opportunity to put an end to yours? Jealousy is within you. It has nothing to do with your partner. No matter what your partner does, you still feel jealous UNLESS you track it down, dissect it, and reduce…

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