Category Archives: Divorce & Separation

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How Will I Feel When I’m Leaving A Hijackal®, A Relentlessly Difficult Person?

Leaving a Hijackal®–that relentlessly difficult person who hijacks the relationship for his or her own purposes–can be a double-edged sword.  Hijackals scavenge the relationship for power, status, and control, and leave you feeling discouraged, demeaned, and disempowered.  You finally recognize the need to leave, and then what? In my Facebook group, a member posted an…

Scary difficult person who mkaes you feel trapped and anxious.

Trapped By a Hijackal in Sheep’s Clothing? Beware!

Hijackals™ are chameleons when you first meet them. They will be just what you want them to be…and that’s the beginning of the path to feeling trapped. It’s like they can read your soul and give you the love, attention, and understanding you have longed for.   S/he scooped you up, engaged you fully, and stole…

Relationship help for dealing with a chronically difficult person,

Why Your Partner Always Makes You Feel Not Good Enough

“Nothing I do is right, not good enough. I do my best but it seems it’s never enough.” Do you feel that way much of the time with your partner, your mother, or a boss? Not just occasionally, but most of the time? (Watch the video at the bottom of this post for quick information on…

Having Trouble Co-Parenting with Your Difficult Ex?

 Co-Parenting with your former spouse is about the children, not about the parents…ideally! Children need to know–and feel–they are more important than the conflict that is, or was, between their parents. Maintaining that is what effective, conscious co-parenting is all about. Co-parenting well provides stability for the child while allowing the child to maintain close relationships…

Relationship Help: Does Your Ex Bad Mouth You to Your Kids?

It is SUCH an obvious thing that should not happen: ex-partners badmouthing one another to the children. That’s when you really might need to step up and get relationship help to put a stop to it!  It is SO important to manage your relationship with your ex WITH YOUR EX, NOT through the kids!  But,…

Relationship Help: Divorce is not the only option when things go sideways!

So many people see few possibilities lying between loving and divorcing. There are options! No need for all-or-nothing thinking unless pre-meditated murder is the next step! Read on. In my practice I often see clients who come in sure that they want a divorce. Why? Because what else do you do when you want to…

Relationship Help: Predicting the Future of Your Relationship

Will your marriage thrive, survive or demise? Here’s some relationship help for figuring that out. Working with so many couples for so long, I have seen that there are many predictors of a relationship’s future. I know that relationships are more likely to fall apart in direct proportion to the individual partners’ unwillingness to look…

Keynotes & Seminars

“Motivating, inspiring, content-rich, practical. What more could we have wanted!” These power-packed topics are available as keynotes, breakouts and half or full-day seminars. SPEAKING & SEMINAR TOPICS: SEX, LIES & CELLPHONES: Becoming Self-Aware & “Other” Wise Relationships often show many symptoms before breaking out into something really uncomfortable, nasty or hard to recover from.  Dr. Read More > >

Looking for help to SAVE your relationship?

Right now, my relationship feels: Click the box that most closely describes your relationship. You need answers to your relationship questions, and solutions to your relationship issues. In your relationship, things may feel rocky, distant, broken, or even, hopeless, right now. Don’t give up! Lots of people need help with their relationship. Relationships are not easy! Read More > >