Hijackal® behavior creates high conflict couples. They exhaust themselves and, eventually, the relationship. A High-Conflict Couple involves one or both partners who: Just want to keep the conflict going, any conflict. Blames, shames and/or judges…and then justifies his/her own behaviors by making it their partner’s fault. Is always seeing the downside potential in everything. Holds on to ideas Read More > >
Did you grow up in a high-conflict family? The effect of a high-conflict person within a family is long-lasting. If you did, you have to learn how to clarify, express and maintain healthy boundaries now. When you were young, you did what you needed to to survive. Now, you want to do more than survive: Read More > >
High conflict divorces involve at least one high conflict person… That’s a person who loves the sense of battle and is preoccupied with blaming and controlling. These divorces seem to never be final…at least, emotionally. And, the children often suffer the most. Motive and Means distinguish a high conflict divorce from ones that are either Read More > >
High Conflict co-parenting is stressful. When your ex is a Hijackal®, you need specific strategies to keep conflict away from the children. Don’t take your divorce out on your kids! High-conflict co-parenting strategies are essential to learn and use to protect your children from unnecessary emotional conflict. When a relationship involving a high-conflict person ends, make Read More > >
Relationship help extends to the workplace where we can find ourselves thrust together with other folks we may or may not like, respect or appreciate. Hopefully, you are in the perfect place with the perfect people, but, just in case you’re not, I’m going to share a few thoughts about managing workplace conflicts with tips…
Do ANY OF THESE EXHAUSTING SCENARIOS SOUND FAMILIAR? Tired of not being treated with respect? Tired of tiptoeing around people to avoid conflict & confrontation? Tired of the frustration of not resolving long-standing issues? Tired of fear or anxiety about relationships issues? Tired of being tired? Being upset? Being used or, even, abused? Tired of Read More > >
If you have a contrarian–a person who always says black when you say white and has no interest in moving towards gray–that you have to work with, or happens to be a family member, these tips can help you. Contrarians seem to take great joy in the “gotcha.” Get insights into improving the relationship here.