Category Archives: Hijackals AKA Chronically Difficult People

What Good Is There In Receiving Criticism From Someone You Hardly Know?

Have you ever experienced receiving criticism from someone you hardly knew–and, who hardly knew you?  It’s a strange situation, isn’t it? I think so. I wonder if they think it is a way to build intimacy in a relationship that is barely past the acquaintance stage? Or, is it an attempt to demonstrate their vast awareness…

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How Will I Feel When I’m Leaving A Hijackal™, A Relentlessly Difficult Person?

Leaving a Hijackal™–that relentlessly difficult person who hijacks the relationship for his or her own purposes–can be a double-edged sword.  Hijackals scavenge the relationship for power, status, and control, and leave you feeling discouraged, demeaned, and disempowered.  You finally recognize the need to leave, and then what? In my Facebook group, a member posted an…

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5 Sad, Underlying Beliefs You May Have If You Were Raised By A Difficult Parent

If you were raised by a Hijackal®* parent, deep down, you know you’re not fine. You say you are, but you’re not. Maybe, you can’t even put your finger on how you know you’re not. I want to help with that. You may not have all five of these deep-down beliefs about yourself, but I…

When Is It A Rough Patch and When Is It Abuse? Recognize abuse!

Is what you’re going through–or watching someone else go through–just a rough patch or actually abuse? Too many people put up with bad behaviors they make excuses for, and put up with, that are really abusive and need to stop! Recognize abuse when it’s happening. No one likes to think they are being abused. You, like…

RELATIONSHIP HELP FOR COUPLES!

Kaizen for Couples Being well-informed about Hijackals is critical to escaping the Hijackal Trap. Best next step? READ THIS BOOK for a more in-depth understanding of the finer–and, the uglier–points, of dealing with Hijackals. Escaping the Hijackal Trap: The Truth about Hijackals & Why they are Crazy-making.  Download it in PDF format NOW for just $7.

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You’re Not Me So You Don’t Know What I Think Or Feel.

Difficult people in your life–especially the relentlessly difficult ones I call Hijackals™–like to tell you what you think, what you feel, or what you should think or feel. That’s covert verbal abuse! Did you know that? Where do they get off doing that? Yet, many people are so used to that behavior that they no…

Hijackal™ Help

Escaping the Hijackal Trap Being well-informed about Hijackals is critical to escaping the Hijackal Trap. Best next step? READ THIS BOOK for a more in-depth understanding of the finer–and, the uglier–points, of dealing with Hijackals. Escaping the Hijackal Trap: The Truth about Hijackals & Why they are Crazy-making.  Download it in PDF format NOW for just Read More > >

Hijackal Help

Your free ebook , How To Spot A Hijackal, should be in your INBOX for download now! (Can’t see it? Be sure to check your spam folder!) Being well-informed about Hijackals is critical to escaping the Hijackal Trap. Best next step? READ THIS BOOK for a more in-depth understanding of the finer–and, the uglier–points, of dealing with Read More > >

Ssssh! Your Secrets Are Never Safe With A Hijackal

Of course, you want the intimacy that is part of a loving relationship, especially the emotional intimacy of having that one special person who knows you better than almost everyone else. That’s natural. You long for closeness and safety. But, you have a tumultuous relationship with your partner, a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal*. You…

Relationship Help: Are You Living with a High-Conflict Person?

High-conflict people leave you feeling used, abused and usually wrong. You cannot do enough to make them happy, get their approval, or feel you can relax. That takes relationship help. You may well be living or working with a high-conflict person if: you never quite feel you can trust them you always feel as though…