Why You Feel So Frozen, Stuck and Powerless With A Hijackal

The energetics of relationships with Hijackals can shut you down emotionally, and even physically. Understanding what happens within yourself, and why, can help you thaw, move, and take action in your own best interests. You need to hear this to empower yourself and get unstuck! You are not powerless, although you may be feeling that […]

What Healthy Love Is

Knowing what healthy love is allows you to examine your own relationship more accurately. Don’t settle for crumbs. Wait for the full meal. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Where we get our contexts for healthy love The necessary balance between autonomy and intimacy A definition of healthy love The 3 must-haves of a healthy adult relationship […]

10 Surefire Signs of an Emotional Abuser

Emotional abuse. Don’t ignore, tolerate, or deny it. See it clearly for what it is, AND how it is affecting you daily. Do you feel putdown, degraded, or are your feelings dismissed and discounted? Is someone trying to control you and/or manipulate you? HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: What coercive control is (See more in this […]

How Narcissistic Parents Damage Their Children

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Learn about the effects the “upside down parenting” of narcissists and other Hijackals can have on your adult life and relationships. Great insights to help you make positive changes, and life easier. First, though, you have to see it clearly to understand what really happened to you. Listen in to further understand the impact having […]

How Hijackals Succeed at Emotional Blackmail

Hijackals are good at emotional blackmail. They are experts at the “Gotcha!” And, they constantly use it to their advantage. Learn more about the components of that blackmail and how to counteract them. Then, Hijackals will fail to succeed at using it against you effectively! Learn what you can do to respond in empowering ways […]

Reading the Shifting Scary Eyes of Hijackals As They Try to Control You

Yes, Hijackal’s eyes are not the windows to their souls as much as windows into their fears and desires to control. It’s real. You’re not imagining it. You can feel safer with the insights in this episode of Save Your Sanity. Research shows that humans notice faces first. Generally, that is what attracts us. HIGHLIGHTS […]

Beware of Introjection & Projection!

You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in. Hijackals–people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits–play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and […]

How To Keep A Hijackal From Tearing You Down

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Hijackals–passive-aggressive. narcissistic. anti-social folks–thrive on tearing you down. Sometimes, it’s a slow picking at you. Sometimes, it’s a constant beratement. Either way, you need to stop it from getting into your head and under your skin. And, if it’s already there, I’ll help you get it out. Listen in. Hijackals–my word for people who hijack […]

How Hijackals Confuse You Through Cognitive Empathy

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Yet, it feels real, and you SO want it to be real. There’s where the manipulation and confusion sets in. In this episode, I let you in on the secret that, much as you want it to be real, it isn’t. (Did I mention that?) You need to see that clearly to keep from being […]


Clearly see how narcissistic people try to control information flow by going through other people, their desired “flying monkeys.” Are there other people in your relationship with the Hijackal who are being approached by the Hijackal to serve their purposes? Do they engage them? Learn how to think about all that! SO important to recognize […]