3 Big Reasons Why Hijackals NEVER Stop And Why You Must

You are kind, patient, considerate, compassionate, and nice. Perfect Hijackal Bait! Sure, all people with those traits are not Hijackal Bait, but, if you’ve been around Hijackals in your growing up years, you may be normalized to accommodating the unkind, obnoxious, and demanding behavior of other people. If that’s the Continue Reading →

You’re Not Me So You Don’t Know What I Think Or Feel.

Difficult people in your life–especially the relentlessly difficult ones I call Hijackals™–like to tell you what you think, what you feel, or what you should think or feel. That’s covert verbal abuse! Did you know that? Where do they get off doing that? Yet, many people are so used to Continue Reading →

Ssssh! Your Secrets Are Never Safe With A Hijackal

Of course, you want the intimacy that is part of a loving relationship, especially the emotional intimacy of having that one special person who knows you better than almost everyone else. That’s natural. You long for closeness and safety. But, you have a tumultuous relationship with your partner, a relentlessly Continue Reading →

Going Home for the Holidays & Hoping It Will Be Different?

Is it realistic to expect that you can go home for the holidays and people will treat you as you are at this point in your life? Or, will they treat as they are comfortable thinking of you as they knew you? Sometimes, people like to keep us in the Continue Reading →

3 Immediate Ways to Empower Yourself When Someone is Angry

When someone is angry–especially when you are faced with an angry, relentlessly difficult person–always remember that the angrier they are, the more brain-dead they are. (Well, not really brain-dead, but when someone is angry, s/he is incapable of thinking straight, that’s for sure.) It’s a simple matter of body chemistry Continue Reading →

If Your Partner Says “It’s All Your Fault,” it’s likely not. Here’s why.

“It’s all your fault!” No matter what is happening you hear “It’s all your fault.” Even, if you weren’t there, it’s somehow all your fault. Maybe, it is. Maybe, you are absolutely incompetent, incapable, and unworthy in every way. But, it’s not likely all your fault. For one thing, you Continue Reading →

Being Verbally Abused May Be Something You’ve Gone “Nose-Blind” To!

Are you being verbally abused? It’s there. It’s always in the air. It could strike or rebound at any time. Have you gone nose-blind to it? “Nose-blind” is a phrase from a TV ad for air-freshener. The reason you’ve gone “nose-blind” to the awful smells in your house or car Continue Reading →