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My partner offered me your video.. however, I am mind boggled that it is her that is the Hijackal.. it all makes sense to me right now… I always knew that she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions and I am always to blame.. and eventually I started to believe her as I love her .. Oh my god! your video is incredible and enlightening.. I feel secure again within myself.  

I’m so relieved. I’ve been to several [sic:counselors] who sided with my crazy-making partner. Finally, someone who gets it, knows the feeling, sees the problem, and has helped me take positive steps.

Chilled my bones when she said about trying to get you pregnant as means of control! Once I was pregnant (with twins), I suddenly felt terrifyingly trapped and it only dawned on me then.

Please meet my dear friend Dr. Rhoberta Shaler who is highly health aware and a master at navigating people through relationship dynamics like no other I know and from a very unique and empowering perspective. She is especially gifted at working with spouses, partners, exes and colleagues of relentlessly difficult people. You can see her accomplishments at https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/frhstaging.  

Thanks to you, I saw a pattern and realized I was being manipulated. After a very abusive day yesterday I ended the relationship. Thank you for the strength my friend.

I want to thank you for your work – I have come across it on Youtube while searching for how to respond to PA behaviour.

I have ordered and read your “Stop – that’s crazy making”, “Escaping the Hijackal trap”, “The Hijackal trap” and now I am reading “Kaizen for couples”.

Your work has really helped me see what is going on in my relationship with my partner.

I can’t afford individual therapy at the moment (I plan to do it), but I am in Al-Anon which also helps a lot.

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Thank you Dr. Shaler, and may I just say, thank you for your work and your writings. You may have no idea just how much of a lifeline i have been thrown just by finding you and now your group.

I listen to your podcast and your YouTube videos. I like the guest speakers. Your voice soothes and strengthens me. My emotional mother.

Dr. Shaler, you have just described my previous life!!! I was married to a hijackal for almost 20 years and left 10 years ago. It has taken me 10 years to recover, but I did. Where were you 10 years ago??? I so hope you can help others who feel trapped and crazy as I did. Thank you!