Many times of lack of anger management is what contributes repeatedly to our relationship problems, whether those relationship problems are within ourselves or with others at home and at work. There is wisdom here to help with anger management.
We invite you to consider these carefully and to incorporate their wisdom into your approach to yourself and others.
If we ourselves remain angry and then sing world peace, it has little meaning. First, our individual self must learn peace.
This we can practice. Then we can teach the rest of the world.
– Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama
Two things a man should never be angry at:
what he can help, and what he cannot help.
~ Thomas Fuller
Of the Seven Deadly Sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back — in many ways it is a feast fit for a king.
The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you.
– Frederick Buechner
Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time,
for the right purpose and in the right way… that is not easy.
Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody’s power, that is not easy.
Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.
~ Thomas a Kempis
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
~ Chinese Proverb
The single clenched fist lifted and ready,
Or the open hand held out and waiting.
For we meet by one or the other.
– Carl Sandburg
Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.
He who angers you conquers you.
~ Elizabeth Kenny
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
The intoxication of anger, like that of the grape, shows us to others, but hides us from ourselves.
~ John Dryden
One of the best ways of keeping your temper in an argument, as most of us know only too well, is not to listen to anything the other person has to say.
– Alice Miller
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets burned.
It’s never what people do that makes us angry; it’s what we tell ourselves about what they did.
– Marshall Rosenberg
People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.
~ Will Rogers
Flying off the handle sometimes causes hammers and humans to lose their heads, as well as their effectiveness.
– William Arthur Ward
Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.
~ Ambrose Bierce
If we could learn to like ourselves, even a little, maybe our cruelties and angers might melt away.
– John Steinbeck
Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those
very things for which you are angry and grieved.
~ Marcus Antonius
The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.
– Barbara De Angelis
Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry.
~ Lyman Abbott
In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term the results are inability to learn, violence and rage, bullying, cruelty, inability to feel another’s pain, especially that of one’s own children, even drug addiction and suicide, unless there are enlightened or at least helping witnesses on hand to prevent that development.
– Alice Miller
How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.
~ Marcus Aurelius
This is a very important practice. Live your daily life in a way that you never lose yourself.
When you are carried away with your worries, fears, cravings, anger, and desire, you run away from yourself and you lose yourself.
The practice is always to go back to oneself.
– Thich Nhat Hanh
When a man is wrong and won’t admit is, he always gets angry.
~ Thomas Haliburton
The greatest remedy for anger is delay.
Many of these quotes were found at The Quote Garden . For that, we are grateful.