Alienated by Love? You are if you pour and pour love, attention, patience–everything you have–and you get nothing but put-downs, rejection, and verbal abuse.
You were patient. You were compassionate. You were considerate. You turned yourself into a pretzel, and still, it did not stop. Somehow, you ended up being the one who wasn’t not good enough. Is this sounding familiar?
Maybe, you even made excuses for it (and called them “reasons.”) You rationalized, and justified their behavior. You’ve given way beyond where it hurts. And, the demand is that you still keep giving. Maybe, there is even a threat of what will happen if you don’t.
And, now you’re here. You hurt too much.
That happens to way more people than it ever should, and I want to help you MAKE IT STOP!
I’ll help you make sense of what is really going on–new insights, strategies, skills, mindset–to help and support you take charge of your life, your feelings, your thoughts, and your relationships once again.
It hurts, I know. I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, and I know all about this because I’ve been there, too. I’ve had to walk through it and figure it out….and SURVIVE & THRIVE!
It takes time, energy, guidance, support, and a commitment to yourself, but you can survive and thrive, too. You didn’t get into this situation overnight, and you cannot remove yourself quickly. In fact, unless there is physical or sexual abuse, it is NOT wise to do things quickly. There is a more effective way.
Whether it is your partner, your parent, or your adult children perpetrating division and distance, being alienated by love feels horrible: it feels like being rejected, trashed, betrayed, misrepresented, misunderstood, lied about and to..and then, discarded.
It’s not about putting on your big person panties and just dealing with it. You can’t just ask yourself to suck it up and truck on. It doesn’t work well that way. Yes, you can do it, but you’re trailing all the pain and hurt behind you, taking it everywhere you go. Not healthy! Not wise!
You don’t want to do that. It will color all your relationships–especially the most important one with yourself, and you definitely don’t want that, either!
But, right this minute, it feels awful. I can help you.